Medical Abortion

[mae2014]

Hey,

After much heartache and lots of conversations with my partner I decided to have a medical abortion

I took my first tablet last night around 8pm

My second tablets are due this evening,

I was just wondering, if you've had one before, would paracetamol be ok for the pain or will I need something stronger?
I have a hot water bottle,
Heavy period pads,

Anything else I need?

Thank you,

Sending lots of love to those going through this/been through it,
Its horrible :( xx

Hi
I’m new to this, and here because I’m running out of ideas of what I can do with myself. Im due to take my first tablet at home tomorrow. If I don’t take it then I will be too late to take this route (currently 9 was 5 days). It’s been such a long hard painful debate as to what to do for the best and the worst thing is I have been here before. Just last time I was in a clinic and had pain relief. This time I went through BPAS (who I’m so great full for)Makes this no easier being a second time and neither decision is being made lightly (I feel very ashamed and convinced I’m going to hell for it- so no extra judgement needed there please). Still petrified I’m doing the wrong thing but just trying to protect my family as we are (we are one of those rare only one child couples!) which I think has been a lot of our dilemma the constant expectation a ‘proper family’ is at least 2 children type thing… anyway getting back to it. Im petrified and just looking for other people going through the same thing

Hi @Bell45 I'm about to take first tablet tomorrow too. Equally as nervous, really worried what to expect pain wise, but you're not alone x

@coconutandlime how far on are you if you don’t mind me asking? Like I said I have shamefully been through this before- and like before I have the same doubts of going through with it. I regretted it last time and for that reason was co confused why I’m back here but this time had more counselling prior and one lady made so much sense when she said it’s easier to look back on these things with rose tinted glasses once the pressure and anxiety cloud isn’t on your shoulders. Thinking I could have done this why didn’t I continue. Just hope I’m strong enough to take the first steps tomorrow x

@Bell45 just over 6w now, so I'm just trying to not talk myself out of it as ultimately it's the right decision in my situation.
Sorry to hear you're struggling, it's such a difficult decision to make and not one that anyone makes lightly. That makes sense though about the rose tinted glasses. My head has been all over the place since I found out, going back and forth, it's like torture!
Hope you're okay x

@coconutandlime thank you for your message. I just wish I came to this point sooner. I wanted a surgical abortion but that means waiting a week next Monday and I’m not sure I can handle the fact I would be over 11 weeks by the time that comes :( I just want to feel normal again x

When I spoke to BPAS at the weekend, I was told it was a 10 week wait for a surgical by me. The waiting is just the worst though, so if you put it off another week it'd just be playing mind games with you.
I've felt the same, just not myself, very down and the nausea doesn't help, so completely understand how you're feeling x

@coconutandlime i left it 24 hours between the first and second tablet,
how are you feeling???

I cant believe the wait for surgical is 10 weeks, thats madness.

How are you feeling too @Bell45 ?

Xxx

@mae2014 pretty numb… just hope I can start to move on and not punish myself. I took the first one yesterday. Then speaking to the midwife after she said that I didn’t have to continue with it if I didn’t want to which I didn’t realise and then threw ne and my husband back in a mind spin for the following 24 hrs back and forth like we have been for weeks in what’s we should do… we really wanted to be on the same page and we got as close as we could because it certainly want a unanimous decision. It’s hard because we were happy before (though still with the leering stigma of being a one child family) so I’m just trying to remind myself that and though we might have liked the idea of a family of 4 we need to stop comparing and remind ourselves 3 is no better or no less than 4,5 etc. It’s us- I think that’s what we struggle with which is why we found ourselves here but for us we just wanted to, protect isnt the right word but I’m struggling to describe- to protect and value what we do have with our daughter and current situation without the risk of any of that coming undone. Sounds selfish I know. I’m convinced karma is going to punish me but it really wasn’t an easy decision it was the worst feeling ever. For the process if anyone is wanting to know I started cramping an hour after I inserted the 4 tablets, that continued for 4 hours without bleeding before I then passed what felt like a clot and the paid lifted. Sending all the love to anyone going through this ❤️ Xx

Thanks for your response @mae2014 :)
I've done the second lot today with what ended up being a 28 hour gap. I've got some cramping at the moment but nothing has happened yet. I did take some pain relief but was sick immediately after so will see how I go!
Hoping for something to happen soon so it's not a drawn out process and then I can try and deal with my emotions and start looking forward.

Hope you're okay @Bell45

Xx

@coconutandlime sorry i only just saw your message, how are you feeling? you're over the worst of it now i promise. You'll bleed for a little while now like a period but you'll be ok, make sure you have a hot water bottle today as that saved me last week.

@Bell45 I can only imagine the torment. Its the worst position to ever find yourself in, but don't think of karma, just keep telling yourself it was the right choice for you and your family, and although you feel sad, it was the right decision. I got free counselling for it and she reassured me that even if you're sad and full of guilt it doesn't mean you made the wrong choice, it just means you're human and those feelings are only normal. Ride it out xxx

Sending so much love to whoevers going through it xxx

Hi @mae2014 I am feeling much better today thank you. It wasn't much longer after I posted that things started moving and it wasn't as bad I'd anticipated. Definitely feel that I'm on the road to recovery now thanks for your support xx

Hello ladies I know this is an old post.but I have just taken my second lot of tablets at 9 30 this morning so been two hours have taken some painkillers for the cramps there not too bad at the moment but I’m scared and could to with someone who has been through this to help reassure me x

@Lovemykids10001 it can take a few hours for bleeding to start . If you’re cramping that’s a good sign that it’s working , were you given 2 extra? To be on safe side they say to use those 2 if you don’t have any bleeding or cramping within 4 hours .
My last termination 2 weeks ago was no where near as bad as I thought it would be psychically .
How far are you ?
Take care of yourself xx

@Rose925 thank you for the reply I am 4 weeks pregnant I have had some cramps and I have also started bleeding nothing major yet tho I’m about to take the last two tablets think I’m going to have to have them between my gum and cheek as I don’t want them to fall out just scared of the pain bleeding ect, how are u feeling now hope your okay xx

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I am 4 weeks pregnant and my doctor advised me to take 3 Mifepristone orally and 2 misoprostol after 2 hours and also orally, I just had light cramps and started having light bleeding after taking misoprostol so I'm just concerned if it will work or not but hope it does

@123Q how did it go? I'm 4½ weeks but haven't got my pills yet as it's been a nightmare trying to get help.

Never done this before and very anxious about it. Also feeling huge guilt.