Tell me your experience of a medical abortion?

[SunflowerSu]

I have decided to get a medical abortion. I’m around 5 and a half weeks. I had a telephone consultation this morning and they are posting a pack out to me which I’m grateful for. It should arrive Friday, I was told.

I plan to take the first tablet on Sunday. I don’t want to start the process during the weekend as I have children at home. I then plan to take the second tablets on Monday morning.

I know everyone will be different but it would be good to hear a range of experiences so that I can be as prepared as possible. If anybody wouldn’t mind sharing?

Hi so sorry your going through this I am also.
And it’s awful. I took the first tablet yesterday too orally at around 1.30pm it took me about a hour to swallow it I was back and fourth deciding if I was doing the right thing even spat it out at one point . After swallowing it felt huge guilt like what have I done. I have two young children 3 years and 1 years and just a lot of personal things going on at the moment as much as I would love the idea of a third I knew it wasn’t the right time for none of us .Today I planned to take the 4 tablets vaginally at around 1.30pm 24 hours later but I can’t bring my self to do it .
I’m so scared . I just called the after care bpas line to see if it would pass naturally because I know my pregnancy has already ended after that first tablet I feel different my boobs no longer hurt and I don’t feel sick.
But the nurse says there is a chance it still won’t pass and could cause further complications. I’m shitting my self I know I need to do it but I just keep putting it off :(

Hi I just wanted to update on how it went for me.
On Saturday afternoon i swallowed the first pill after goin around in circles for hours if it was the right choice. I after what felt like a lifetime I finally done it. I felt like shit afterwards but I knew that was it. Just over 24 hours later yesterday afternoon I took the four vaginal tablets. I didn’t want to use my hand to put them up so I decided to buy a thrush canesten kit where you get the applicator inside the pack and it helped massively knowing they went in correctly so anyone that feels the same I would advise to get one. I was so scared to do these vaginal tablets I was going around for hours putting it off again as I think it’s the lead up to it is the worst of all . I finally plucked up the Courage to do it I layed on the bed for about 2.5 hours as I didn’t dare move incase they fell out I just wanted to know they was fully dissolved. After around 2.5 hours I started to get like a achy feeling at the bottom of my tummy and back abit like when your on your period. Nothing major I had a hot water bottle and took two zapain half codene and half paracetamol) when I stood up and went to the bathroom I had started to bleed and I went all faint and dizzy I didn’t feel sick or dioreah just light headed I had to quickly sit back down incase I passed out. I called the bpas nurse she said to keep an eye on the dizziness and to walk around to help it come out which I found difficult to do because I only felt ok when I lay down. I also had the shakes to but I think this was adrenaline and my nerves. I kept on getting out of bed every half an hour to try and let the clots come out I sat on the toilet about 11pm ish for around 10 mins and that’s when the clots fell out sorry tmi but I think this is the worst part of it it’s not painful it’s just the most bizzare feeling of them coming out and blopping in the toilet. The pain was around 4/10 and again it was just a achy feeling in lower back and stomach like a period no where near contractions it was nothing extreme for me but I am sure everyone is different. The worst part for me was just feeling it all come away that’s the most traumatic thing and it happened all so fast it’s like one minute your pregnant then you see it all coming out. The pain didn’t come in waves for me like contractions it was more just a constant sore lower achy tummy and back. Once I had passed the 3/4 small clots they was probally around a 50 o size I felt a bit relieved and layed down I kept on getting back up to see if any more was there but it was just blood. Within a hour after that my pain settled and i felt as though it was almost over with the pain going away and no more clots just those 3/4 all at the same time and that was it. The next morning I woke up and had a bath and still no more clots just blood but not lots of it. I called bpas after Care line they said all sounds about right for how far along I am I am very early I conceived on exactly the 20th March which makes my pregnancy 3 weeks. I know they like to add an extra two weeks on from your last period but I know the pregnancy was exactly 3 weeks old. The nurse said just keep an eye on the bleeding I should be bleeding for at least four days to make sure it has all come away. I am Still bleeding but just light now I feel like I passed most of it last night as there was quite abit of blood. Good luck ladies going through this it is awful thing to go through but I promise you once the worst part is over you will see it isn’t as bad as what everyone says I know everyone experiences different but there are also lots of horror stories on here too. It’s the leading up to it that’s difficult once you just pluck the courage up to do them it will be over before you know it and I was so scared of all these horror stories and something no going wrong. I mean yes it’s not nice at all but it’s not as bad as I thought it was going to be x

Currently sat, waiting in hospital to take my first pill. I have terrible anxiety - but I know this is the right thing for me and my family currently.

I just want to say how much reading this thread has helped me; and given me so much comfort.

The part worried the most about is the passing; I’m scared of what I’m going to see. But I know that it’s right, that voice is telling me - it’s ok; this is what’s right.

❤️ So much love to you all.

I had an abortion back in July. I had no idea about what was going on with the laws but the day roe vs Wade was overturned I felt my heart drop out of my body. I had no idea and I was getting down to my last couple of weeks of my first trimester and my inutero child's father snapped me all the info....I was so shook I left work. I had no idea what to do. I'm a mom of four doing it alll on my own and the child's father I barely knew to begin with. I had met him through work and he was definitely not ready to become a dad AT ALL and offered to help me regarding my abortion and was 100 percent supportive of what I wanted but let me know he was not going to be in the child's life. I wanted the abortion straight up. I was SO scared though. I called tons of places trying to find help close by....nothing.....I felt hopeless like I was stuck. Finally I found a place in Colorado so he paid for my plane ticket which was like 600. I had never flown before so I threwup all over the airport. I was alone. I was freaking out I had to take a bus to my appointment and got lost. The protesters freaked me out but the people who worked there were extremely helpful. I got to my room and started panicking wondering if I'm doing the right thing. I followed through and it definitely was uncomfortable but ended up going somewhere I always wanted to go to numb that pain a bit. Here I am 2 months out really grieving this and I'm not sure how to cope. I do feel I made the best decision as I could never do it all on my own plus another baby but I feel so empty and that's the part none wants to talk about.

I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks ago. Missed my period and thought I'd better take a test and it came back positive. Although I've been saying for a while I'd like to have kids, my mental health has not been great over the past year so I decided now would not be a good time. My partner has been so supportive and said that he would support me whatever decision I made. I was really upset and felt guilty for a few days but having spoken with my counsellor I realise I have made the right decision. It helped me to envision that the soul of the unborn baby could go and be impregnated in another lady who really wants a child or that it could return when I am ready to have a baby in the future. Although this may sound strange I am a spiritual person so I do find these kinds of ideas comforting.

I was very anxious whn I first found out and googled Marie Stopes now MSI. I left them a message and in the morning I called my doctor and they arranged an appointment to speak with me the following Tuesday. I decided to follow up with MSI to see if I could speed up the process and I am so glad I did because it was so quick. They called me back for an assessment and then the following day I spoke with a doctor who mailed out the medical abortion tablets as I was only around 4.5 weeks.

I was told the tablets would take 3 to 5 days to arrive. Meanwhile I received no call from my GP and had to chase, then was told Id have to wait until Thursday. The tablets arrived on Tuesday so I planned to tell my GP all was well basically. I took the call from him and explained what had happened and that was that, thanks for nothingbasically. I took the first pill yesterday and felt nothing except a little dizzy this morning and some light spotting. Then I took the 2nd lot of tablets vaginally this afternoon and some paracetamol and waited.

Nothing happened for the first hour or so and then I got waves of chills, felt like I needed a poo,had loose stool and then began bleeding. The pain was really intense for about an hour and I started to feel quite sick. I vomited once. I bled a fair bit but didn't notice anything that different from a normal period except maybe some grayish small tiny lumps in the blood. Maybe this is part of the pregnancy. I had to take the 3rd lot of pills as 3 hours had passed and they say to take those unless you're certain the pregnancy has passed. I wasn't really feeling like it and had to eat beforehand so managed to take a few mouthfuls of pitta bread and insert them.

Since then I've had a little bit of cramping and some more bleeding but no pain like before. I'm wondering if I will have any further intense pain or pass a foetus like some of these reports say. I feel slightly sad but also relieved. Hoping the process works. If anything else notable happens in the next few days or weeks I will update. For now pretty straight forward process. Yes painful but nothing I couldn't ride out with the help of paracetamol and ibuprofen.

I think it's great that other women are sharing on here as there still seems to be some stigma attached to abortion. Personally I have only told my partner and two close friends. I made the decision to not tell my family as I believe one of them in particular will be quite upset and ultimately its not fair to upset them basically. Yes it's my body but I am lucky enough to have a supportive partner so I don't feel the need to tell the family. I may change my mind in the future but right now I don't see the need.

Definitely recommend MSI if anyone is unsure of where to go for help. Good luck everyone.

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Hi, not sure if anyone will see this thread now but I thought I would share my experience in brief.

So I found out I was pregnant on the day of my missed period, I had a feeling something wasn't right so took a test. I filled out a form on BPAS website that evening to request an abortion consultation. It was really simple to complete and I received a response the next day with an invitation to a call with midwife 2 days later.

The call lasted about 40 minutes, lots of medical questions and advice which was really helpful. I was just under 5 weeks pregnant at this point so she agreed to send me the medical abortion pack in the post. This arrived via DPD the next day (on Saturday 3rd December.)

I took the 1st pill Sunday just gone and had no side effects. Actually went for a run that evening. Monday morning (24 hours later) I inserted the 4 tablets vaginally. After about an hour I started to get mild cramps but nothing major. Took some precautionary Ibuprofen and paracetamol. The bleeding started just before I inserted the 2nd 2 tablets vaginally. After this the bleeding got heavier but I passed most of mine on the toilet. I passed a few quite large clots but I didn't necessarily see the pregnancy pass...I am just hoping it has gone! I had about an hour of quite extreme pain, like worse than normal period pains but I just took more pain killers and the pain passed quickly.

The day after (Tuesday 6th December) I returned to work. I had very light bleeding, hardly anything on the pad and just a bit in the toilet. My boobs have been sore ever since I started the abortion procedure which is strange but apparently normal!

Day 2 and the bleeding continued but was accompanied by mucus and seemed more pink in colour which I thought meant things were slowing down. I had some mild cramping but nothing major and didn't need painkillers to manage it.

Today I am 3 days post abortion and the bleeding has actually got quite a lot heavier again this morning which is a bit worrying. I also passed a couple more clots this morning. I'm not filling pads by any means, but bleeding a lot of bright red blood into the toilet (more than a heavy period). I'm trying to tell myself its normal and not to worry but its hard not to! I also have a tender slightly bloated tummy. Hoping tomorrow it all improves so I can stop worrying.

Anyway, hope this is helpful to someone. And I'd welcome and reassurance that what I'm experiencing today is normal? So worried about not having passed all the pregnancy and having to go into hospital, but I think an probably jumping the gun a bit!

I thought I'd post my experience as I read so many others for reassurance I hope this may help someome else.

I found out I was pregnant at about 5 weeks. I'd eaten some breakfast that tasted funky and had been super emotional and my period was late so I had a feeling that this may be the case but really didn't want to face it. At 41 and with 3 teenagers I really shouldn't be finding myself pregnant. However test confirmed worst fears. For me there was no question of keeping it although I've always classed myself as pro choice I really never, ever, ever thought I'd be able to have an abortion as I couldn't see myself ever being okay with that option. Now being in this situation I'm 100% okay with my choice. This wasn't a choice just for me this was a choice for my whole family. In the current climate I can barely keep us afloat and my children all need me lots with upcoming exams, teenage woes and our house is already overcrowded and bursting at seams. There was no other way and this was the right choice for me.

I did an online application to MSI and after 3 days hadn't heard a thing so called them. An appointment for a telephone conversation had been created and emailed but I hadn't received the email. The telephone conversation was booked for 8 days after my initial online application. This call was fine and just asked lots about my medical history. I had researched beforehand and decided the pill option would be better suited for me so made the choice for a medical abortion. The lady booked me an appointment to go into clinic 4 days later.

I was embaressed, mortified and ashamed on route to clinic. I felt so foolish however on arrival all staff where fantastic. Due to having taken the morning after pill the month before it had been decided I would have a scan to confirm dates. I actually asked to see the scan and took a photo home. The scan confirmed I was 7 weeks pregnant
I was asked tons of questions at appointment - mostly safe guarding and the midwife was a lovely lady with no judgement. I did have a little cry as its a sad situation but I was still 100% sure with my choice. I was given the tablets and explained the process. Due to fact it was 23rd Dec and I wanted to take the tablets when my children where out of house I decided to wait until 27th to take first tablet.

I took the first tablet at 8.30am on 27th. Within an hour and half I felt super sick which pretty much stayed for next 24 hours. I was pretty shocked as everything I'd read indicated most people didn't have side effects. I also experienced a little itchiness an hour or so after taking but that died down. I had an awful night's sleep and felt so emotional, sick and spent night awake and reading stories of others experiences to try and be prepared.

I headed of to my partners the next day and I took tons of maxi pads, underwear, lucazade and a wheat bag to heat. I was pretty nervous but at 12pm I got my partner to insert the 4 tablets and took 3 iburofen and laid for about 45 mins as didn't want to have them come out. After 45 mins I was feeling heavy in my tummy but no pain or discomfort just sensation. The sickness from tablet had worn off so I had some toast and went to toilet I had some bleeding and was starting to feel cramping so took 2 codeine tablets I'd been given from the clinic.

About half hour later I really started to feel cramping and would put this on par with a very heavy period / very early stage labour cramping. The wheat bag worked wonders and we put a movie on. At around 2.15 I went to toilet and just stayed there the pain was really getting strong and being in the position seemed to help I could also feel blood and small clots coming out.

I'm giving an accurate description of how it was for me to help you prepare not to scare you. I had expected it to get bad from experiences I've read and the next 45 mins or so were awful. Felt like one long constant intense contraction. Just no break at all. My partner was amazing but nothing he could do. I made myself get off toilet a couple of times but could barely move with intensity of pain. He brought me me painkillers but I couldn't take them at that stage. I was I so much pain I would say its on par with labour contractions at this point (I had all 3 of my children naturally so think I'm fairly tough) I was uncomfortable on toilet so I got off toilet and onto all fours and rocked a few times. I then went to sofa where I'd laid a black bag and towel on top before I even started. I laid on it and felt a rush of something come out of me. I asked my partner to look and he said its clots and blood then I felt a pop and what I can only describe like my waters going and something slid out of me. Almost instantly the pain went and my partner checked and said I think that it. I looked and it was a mass of grey/white about 6cms round. It was clearly the pregnancy. My partner put it into a tissue but said he didn't want to flush it and I didn't either. I have since decide I will plant it under my favorite bush in my garden. This isn't because I believe at this stage it was anything other than a clump of cells but it had the potential to be something wonderful and for me that's important and I dont want to forget that. I think that's why I also kept scan pic. I rang the helpline as I hadn't taken the last 2 tablets but because I'd passed the pregnancy they said I didn't need to.

So from taking the 4 internal tablets to pregnancy being out was about 3.5 hours. It wasn't pleasant but its done and I've since had some cramping and bleeding but had a bath after and washed my hair and got fresh pj's on. I've not needed any pain killers and ate some tea last night. I've slept on a towel as have bled heavy and tummy is slightly achey but no more than a heavy period.

Overall I think the treatment I received was amazing I'm not sure that they prepare you enough for the level of pain you can experience that's why I wanted to add my experience. Also be careful where you read reviews online there are lots of pro life 'experiences' that are just horror stories.

Please if in doubt or worried call the helpline they are so good and really helpful.

Hi All,

Im seeking some advise i suppose, im in turmoil at the moment, i was told nearly three years ago, due to health reasons, i would not likely be able to bare another child, i would need to be reffered to fertility but even then there were no guarantess, my gynaecologist was very clear and rather abrupt when giving me this information. my then partner and i had been trying previously for 2 years, i have two children already, so as much as i struggled to get my head around being told this, i was grateful for the blessings i already have, and in time, managed to change my mind set to being accepting of this, it wasnt easy but i worked hard.

Well... 2 years later and with a different partner ( previous discovery put a strain on realtionship as well as other things) i have recently folund out i am pregnant! 6 weeks nearly. I have not been with this chap very long, i have told him and he is elated. I am shocked, i am angry at myself, i should be jumping for joy and i so want to be, but i just cannot, i do not feel one bit happy or excited about this, i just want to cry and i cannot understand myself!? i want to be happy, and as much as i try to convince myself, its just not working.
my partner wants this, ive tried to tell him how i feel and he listens, but he is not happy about my turmoil, understandably.

I cannot make a decision as to what to do! it is in my head 24/7, i just want to hide away and cry and i feel selfish

anyone able to relate?

TIA

I had a blood PT on March 21st, and it was stated on the result "faintly positive" I did not know if the preg is weeks or a month, I got misoprostol 200mcg that day, around 11:30pm I took two pill orally and inserted two into the vigina, I noticed a sharp pain in my stomach (cramp) after 30mins I fell asleep, around 3am I was woke up by the pain again but there was no bleeding, after the pain subdued I went back to sleep, when I woke up in the morning I went to ease myself then I saw a little blood stain then the stain is very lightly than period self, the light bleeding last for two days (21-22) then brown and fowl smelling discharge for 3days..... I still have breast tenderness and I'm really depressed because I don't know yet if the abortion is a success or failure I'm scared!..... Pls when can I run another blood PT ? Today is the 6th day after the abortion.... Sorry for the long thread

Please I need help, I took misoprostol alone for early pregnancy abortion, I saw light blood for two days and it stopped, after 3days I started seeing blood light blood again and the last day I saw little clots like 3 (size of small beans) then I went for blood test again after 11day of using the pill, I test positive again and I went for ultrasound scan to know maybe if there's anything developing inside me and the pelvic scan shows nothing (everything is normal) and I have tender breast paining me and body fatigue, I don't know what's happening I'm really confused nd depressed@everyone

I cried when I found out. I don't think you're selfish. I think you need to do what is right for you.

Speak to your doctor.

@YungHappiness please go to see your provider

Did you take mifepristone prior to the Misoprostol ?

Did they give you a booklet with lots of info , how to's and when to be worried ?

Did they provide you an aftercare contact number ?

If you went through Bpas or MSI then you had all these things

Provider or Gp as the smell you describe suggests infection although it may just be the last of the bleed and product

Please seek out medical support 💐

I know this post is very old but I wanted to share my experience this week.

I found out I was pregnant and was over the moon, partner was excited. Started taking the correct vitamins and changing my lifestyle. Went for a reassurance scan at 5.5 weeks and was all good. Getting excited.

Things changed quickly my partner got cold feet and started to freak out and pushed me into abortion. Saying we wasn’t ready etc not the right time. I’m 27 years old this was my first baby, I shouldn’t have been a coward and let him into my head. In fear I’d lose him to I agreed as I knew I would get another chance.

Booked it in and the consultant was 2 weeks later so I would be 7 weeks. I had an emergency scan before the appointment because I started to bleed heavily, I have a cyst in my ovary but there baby was with a strong heart beat, this was very hard to see now I was getting attached, mental health deteriorated but I was still expected to go the appointment.

very sadly took the tablet at the clinic and took the rest home. I sat there with the midwife and cried and cried on her shoulder. Delayed the rest it by 3 days because I thought I could reverse what I done as instantly regretted my choice and the reasons behind it, too late I was already bleeding red blood.

I inserted the 4 tablets and I can only describe the pain as someone slicing up my insides, it was so horrific I was violently sick and blacked out twice, I didn’t take pain killers as I felt I deserved to feel it all. Ended up in an ambulance as I was hemorrhaging a lot of blood, the pregnancy passed after 6 hours and I soaked 10 maternity pads. The pain is something I do not want to experience again.

i will be a good mum one day and I will never let a man persuade my choices again, I will not be a coward and do it alone next week if I need to. He/she will always be my first child and I will hold the scan photo of them close to my heart forever.

Thanks @everyone I have finally tested negative.....I appreciate your word of advice and encouragement.... 🎊🎉🥰

Hi I am wondering if anyone has had any experience with taking the abortion pill after previous csections?

I just wanted to send my love. You have really been through it. I hope you are healing. Please seek counselling if you think it might benefit you xx

Yes I have had c sections. All was ok in my case but everyone is different. X

Hi all,

I don’t know if anyone is still active on this thread but I just wanted to post after reading all your stories.
I took the first pill this evening after a week or so of mental torment over this decision despite knowing it was for the best.

I have a two year old son, who I have brought into this world single handedly, from pregnancy to the toddler he is now.
The situations evolving round having my boy caused a lot of mental and emotional strain.
After being single for five years, I am only newly in a relationship (with whom I got pregnant by), and this was after much adjustment, and me ready to let my own guard and let someone try to love me.

I only feel like I’m now getting back on in my life, to be able to live and work and raise my boy. mentally and emotionally I wasn’t ready for another child & if I carried on, I worried about my mental mind frame going with having another child knowing I didn’t plan to have another one yet. I want to live, and focus on my son & experience my life again.

but at the same time I am so worried, scared, and all the emotions you can think off over the idea of the pain, and how I’d feel after mentally (like would this change me? Would I hate myself?)

The pain and the process of step 2 also scares me, having read so many mixed experiences, the anxiety is killing me waiting for me tomorrow night to let it be done.

Thank you if anyone reads xx