Medical Abortion pain....help

[dudemeister76]

It’s currently 3:30 am and I woke up an hour ago in unbelievable pain. Took the last two pills at 6pm yesterday and had no bleeding until about 9pm. Even then it’s was spotting with two teeny weeny clots. I could have gotten away with a panty liner.
The pain was so intense an hour ago I’m just wondering if anyone else had had a similar experience? Is this the cervix trying to dilate? I was literally on my knees wailing and was sick. Still hardly any blood but seems watery now?
I thought this couldn’t be more painful than childbirth or the 12 week miscarriage I had 4 years ago but (I’m 5weeks and 5 days) it was really quite breathtaking. I’ve taken loads of painkillers but it didn’t touch the pain when it came. Could it be my body trying to expel? I’m scared it’s coming back again but just want this over with 😭😭😭

I know the pain can be very severe.
I had a MTOP and it was unbelievably painful, I was shivering and vomiting because it was so bad, I bled so heavily, palm sized clots. It was the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced.

It also didn’t work, I did the advised pregnancy test four weeks later to confirm and I was still pregnant. I was called back in for a scan and the baby still had a heartbeat. I ended up having to have a GA and go to theatre for a surgical abortion instead.

With how much pain I was in, and how much I bled, I have no idea how it didn’t work.

I’m still not bleeding much really it’s been 20 hours since last pills. I’m going to call the aftercare when it gets to 24 hours. Just want this over with. I still have hope I guess, I keep reading that some women have a delayed reaction and it still may start properly 🤞
The pain I had last night was so bad but feeling relatively ok today.....feel sick and feels like pressure on my cervix but no horrendous cramps. Has anyone here experienced delayed reaction to the pills? Hope someone replies 😢

The reaction I had was within 3 hours. I bled then. Wasn’t hugely heavy but needed to change my pad every few hours. It was agony too. Almost like contractions. I had diarrhoea and vomiting.

The bleeding subsided very quickly afterwards. I was so concerned that was invited in for a scan - the pregnancy has passed. The rest 3 weeks later was negative.

How are you today? I hope you are ok.

*test

Hiya @ED81. Late last night I started bleeding heavier....finally. It was like a normal period and the the toilet water went reddish when I went but I certainly didn’t have a gush or any clots. It’s was what I’d describe as more ‘bitty’ looking when I looked in the loo. This morning it was still like a normal period and I passed what I can only describe as something long and stringy with white/gray tissue and blood attached with a hard ball shaped like a peppercorn. It was nothing really and Indistinguishable as anything but it was tough tissue so I’m wondering if that was it?
Bleeding has tapered off but still there. Seems to quick even though it took ages to start. I’m early though 5 weeks 6 days. How many weeks were you?
Thanks for replying! X

I was just over 8 weeks. The bleeding for me had stopped completely before day 3. But it has worked.

Physically I feel alright. My mood is certainly low afterwards though. But hey!

@ED81 I’m glad it wasn’t too bad physically for you. Hope your low mood lifts too ❤️ I think that during the physical side of abortion we go into practical mode. I know I have. It’s almost like I’ve disassociated myself with it and will now start to allow myself to feel the feelings. Before I took the first pill it was really emotional and went through all sorts of feelings from feeling ashamed then angry I’d got myself in this situation then guilty but I know I’ve made the right choice. I’m 44 with a son and granddaughter. I have a great career as a personal trainer that I love with all my heart, my husband and I are able to enjoy our lives now our son has left and has his own little family. I also had a horrendous miscarriage in 2018 that I never want to experience again. For me this was the right choice but it still hurts my heart and I’m going to accept and feel the feelings that I know are natural to have. I’ve made a promise to myself that I’m not going to brush my emotions under the carpet like I did with the miscarriage. Things will get better.
Woke up bleeding quite heavily today so happy now that it’s all going according to plan. Still can’t believe it took so long to kick in but just goes to show that we all react differently to the medication. Roll on 3 weeks for a negative test and some closure on one of the toughest choices I’ve had to make in my life ❤️
My heart really goes out to everyone who’s going through this. I know mumsnet has really helped me through this as it helped me through my miscarriage years ago.

It really is tough isn’t it. Glad you know you have made the right choice though.

It is certainly the emotional side of things that are more tricky to deal with.

The termination I had was in March. I too feel angry, sad and ashamed. And now low.

It is a life changing event though. Healing can take time.

@ED81
Yes it will definitely take time. I think it’s a decision we have to make quickly and it’s almost a shock once it’s over. Don’t forget though it’s a brave thing to do and that bravery will also get you through the aftermath and the healing. The most important thing is to forgive yourself. If it were someone you loved who was going through it you’d wrap your arms around them and tell them it’s going to be ok. I think you have to treat yourself like this. Love yourself, wrap imaginary arms around yourself and tell yourself it will be ok. It will be ok xx it’s normal to feel sad but I reckon once you let your thoughts spiral you begin to punish yourself and that is no good. We can be our own worst enemy at times like this. I hope you are ok. I need to make sure I take my own advice lol. Always here if you need a chat xx

Thank you for your kind words.
I agree we are own worst enemies in life.

My husband is incredibly supportive. I’m 40. and we don’t have children. This was a planned pregnancy but from the moment I found the positive result my anxieties went through the roof and my mood into my boots. I felt I’d made a terrible mistake.

I suppose the reality of being pregnant was actually very different from the planning.

I can’t otherwise even begin to explain what happened.