4 weeks after Medical abortion

[DC87]

Hi,

I had a medical abortion 4 weeks ago. It was the hardest decision i have ever had to make but due to stomach related health issues needing further investigation i had a termination as I could not receive the medical assistance I needed whilst pregnant. Since then I have struggled to come to terms with my decision and am full of guilt and regret on a daily basis. Things just don’t seem to be getting any easier. Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this? How long did it take you to come to terms with your decision?

Any help appreciated.

Hi @DC87.
Sorry to hear this. It’s horrible isn’t it.
I had a medical abortion 4.5 weeks ago. I was fine for around 2 weeks but since then I’ve been feeling flat and tearful. I’m hoping it’s hormone related.

Have you had your period return yet? I think until then thoughts and feeling can peak and troff.
Have you considered counselling?

Hi @ED81,

Thanks for responding. It really is horrible. It’s hard to keep putting on a brave face with the people around me who obviously don’t know. No I haven’t had my period return yet. Maybe it is all hormone related? I was offered counselling which I declined at the time however over the last week it is something I have considered more. I was told by BPAS I could phone back at anytime and they would arrange something.

That’s the thing - when nobody knows it’s sucks having to put a happy face on when you feel like a bag of crap.

Just take it easy with yourself. Rest up, drink fluids, eat some nice food. It’s still early days and is an individual journey. Have you got a partner who is with you? My husband is great - although I don’t think he totally gets it he fully supports me and comforts me.

I’d recommend the counselling. Like I say, I thought I was alright. But then wasn’t so have counselling arranged for today. It’s with Marie Stopes.

@DC87 your Abortion provider will have a Post Treatment Counselling service ... I'm a nurse within this speciality
I would definitely recommend giving them a call and booking a session , it may help you ? Depending on who your provider was I could give you the number if you like ?

@DC87. I take my hat off to you doing that job. I really do.

Is it usual to be feeling hormonal 4.5 weeks on? Almost like PMT type symptoms.

Yes , very normal
You are probably due your period
It will be heavier , last longer and have some clots in it - all normal , any concerns ring the aftercare number , we'll always listen !

Yes my husband is very supportive and understanding. I know he is devastated too but he seems to deal with it better than me. Either that or he is putting on a brave face. Glad you have a supportive partner too. I will definitely consider arranging some counselling.

Thanks again

I got your user names mixed up! Silly me.

@jannyapple. Thank so much. I’m hoping I'm feeling this way as my period is coming soon. It really is miserable.

@DC87. Glad your husband is there. I think men are just slightly different with processing things and I suppose you are the direct one who went through it which is impacting. He maybe is putting on a brave face for you too.

Yes, definitely consider counselling. I’ve found it so very helpful. Couldn’t recommend it highly enough.

Took a clear blue digital test and it reads "pregnant 2-3" and at that moment I knew I didn't wanna have a baby because I tried to prevent it. Usually my cycle is regular and had sex on the 15 May and got a PlanB the next morning but seemingly that didn't work. On the 4th of June I went to Marie Stopes for TOP and I was dated 4 weeks pregnant. The nurse gave me the 1st pill then took home those 4 pills. The next morning I had to put them under my tongue for 30min and cramping started. It wasn't that bad and I saw a brownish discharge and hours later maybe 3 or 4, went to the ladies and I wiped and I saw a bean shaped clot.