Don't know what to do..

[mummysummer]

I've just found out I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Wasn't planned. In fact I took the morning after pill. I ran out of contraception and wanted a break from it as it gave me headaches. Anyway 1 week later I must have caught.

Background - I am engaged to my partner of 5 years and we have 1 child, who is 20 months old. Would be 2.5 when baby arrives.

I really don't feel like it's the right time to have another. I wanted to wait until my LO was in school. I don't think I will cope with 2 under 3. We rent, and I wanted to buy a nice house before we had another in a few years time. Now I feel like that will never happen. I also didn't really enjoy my maternity leave and my LO still won't sleep in his own bed 🥺 me and my DP go through stages where we argue a lot and he was useless during the newborn stage.

Financially I think we would manage just about as first born would have 30 free hours in September 2022 when I'd be due back in work

On the other hand, I would like them close in age and I know my LO would love a brother or sister to play with. Is it better to get it over and done with? I do believe everything happens for a reason.

I'm really not sure what to do. I haven't told anyone. Advice please

I think you need to let the shock wear off before you make a decision.

If there a reason you haven’t told your partner? Are you worried about his reaction?

Sorry I have told him and he is over the moon. But it's me who will have to juggle 2 children day in day out while he works.

I'm maybe not the best person to advise since I'm going through my own dilemma at the moment. I had my first 2 with a 3 year gap and it was a breeze to be honest. They played together nicely and are still super close now. I had big plans to move somewhere bigger and it only happened 8 years later 😂 but we were so happy in our little house.

I was lucky that I got 15 hours free from the month after DS2 was born, but I was also made redundant during the pregnancy and even though things were tight we managed.

However, if you feel like your partner won't be supportive and you don't think you can manage then ending the pregnancy is a valid decision.