How do you make the decision?

[User93505]

I’ve just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant very much unplanned and a massive shock.

I am not really ready to have a second baby, however during my 1st pregnancy I got diagnosed with a medical condition which may make it harder to have children in the future.

My DD is only 1 and I really can’t afford a second child right now. It just seems mad that I’m basing this decision of financial needs but then, they are really important aren’t they?

I suppose I’m just really worried that I have a termination now and then when we decide we’re ready to have another in the future I won’t be able to and I will be kicking myself.

I don’t know what I expect anyone to say, I guess I just needed to write it down

Have you spoken to your partner? I would also speak to your GP/consultant. Do you have any close family you can confide in? Sorry I don't have answers just giving you questions to think about. Look after yourself.

When you say can't afford another, do you mean literally could not afford to feed, clothe, house a baby?
Or need to buy a bigger car / house / holiday... i.e things that are nice but not essential?

It doesn't seem like a good reason to terminate unless you really, really can't afford another baby. But if you're planning another presumably in the next few years anyway.. does it really make such a huge difference?

In some ways it's more affordable to have two in a short space of time.

@User93505 if you want this baby, get counselling asap and talk about your fears. money comes and goes, and times can be hard, but if there's any shred of you that is in doubt about termination, and wants to keep the baby, then you should really consider not terminating. we recently terminated, and ignored the parts of us that wanted the baby because of logistics of the 2 we already have. thinking we couldn't do it for all the usual reasons. hormones played a bigger part, covid played a bigger part, and not having support of a mental health professional to discuss these things. you'll see online where you look people overlooking the devastation, and not commenting on it. the time may not be perfect, is it ever? i agree with above poster, if you want one later, why not now? good luck with your choices, and i really hope you talk to a professional. counsellors at abortion clinics only deal with this, so they would be good to consult with. i hope you all the best. and remember, no one knows your situation except for you, so anyone elses opinions and experiences will not be yours. sending you hugs.

@User93505 how're you keeping and hope you found someone to talk to?

@MrsOV hope you're ok ❤️❤️