Can you give me your opinion please, I need help so badly..

[takemebackto2003]

I'm 9 weeks (10 weeks on Tuesday) with my second (planned) baby.
Since finding out I just haven't been in a good state at all. I've felt sick all the time and exhausted which I can't handle when I have DS1, I've never cried so much in my life or felt so alone or isolated and it's made things for myself and DP so much worse. I don't even know if we're going to stay together.
I've become obsessed with the idea of abortion, hoping I'll miscarry. The GP said she would refer me for a termination but needs to do it soon.
I don't know why I feel this way, I feel like a completely different person to who I was 2 months ago.

Hi takemebackto2003, with my first 2 pregnancies I felt the same, awful morning sickness, tiredness. Both planned but I considered abortion. But I knew in my gut it was my hormones making me feel that way and sure enough when I reached 12 weeks and the sickness passed and hormones levelled I felt fine. With my third pregnancy, also planned, I felt an overwhelming regret. And I actually did terminate in the end, mainly for specific health risks with that particular pregnancy which I discovered at an early scan. I did wait until 12 weeks so I could be sure it was what I wanted and not just hormones going mad.

Its such a hard time, can you speak with a counsellor to work through things? I dont think there's any harm in calling msi or bpas and asking for an appointment as there's usually a couple of week wait. At least then you can give yourself a couple more weeks to work through your feelings.

It is hard to advise, on one hand id say be cautious it isn't your hormones, but also it may be how you really feel. Do you think you want to abort because its making things tough for you and dp ? X

I am pregnant with my first and planned and read people can feel really low in their first 12 weeks, I thought not me as I’ve been trying for so long! But it really does. Have you asked the doctor for anything to help you with the sickness to take the edge off?