This is a bizarre story but I want to include the lead up so it makes more sense. I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and we have two children, one a toddler and the other just turning 7. We’d talked about having a third before I gave birth to the second but my husband was not happy with the idea while I was more open. One night while my youngest was still small my husband said ‘what do you want me to do’ when it came to the question of putting the condom on. I repeatedly told him to put it on because we can’t make a choice like that in the middle of sex. Eventually he put one on. Fast forward months later and we ended up having sex without a condom. That was the first time ever we’d not used contraception except for previous attempts TTC. The next day he said ‘you’re not on the pill are you because I came inside you last night’ it was a weird convo (staying the obvious!) but we talked about me not being on the pill and I was waiting for my youngest to give up breastfeeding so he’d have to use a condom. He said he raised it more to flag it to me when I asked if the night before had concerned him. Fast forward again to a couple of months later and he asked if he should get protection, I said it’s was risky if he didn’t but he grinned and said ‘risky huh’ and carried on. From that point we didn’t use contraception again. Several months later and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. When I told him he took me upstairs and we slept together. I’d assumed that was a positive reaction?! I had to head off out afterwards but by the time I came back he said he couldn’t cope with another baby and we needed to decide what to do. A week later he had nearly a full on panic attack when I said I didn’t know what to do and he said I’ll ruin his life if he doesn’t get a choice and I don’t abort. he has moved into the spare room and told me he’ll divorce me if I don’t abort. I’m devastated and completely at a loss. I realise we didn’t have the ‘shall we try for a baby convo’ but surely it’s obvious what might happen, he’s experienced in becoming a dad! I’m so perplexed. He seems very serious about leaving. I really don’t feel comfortable aborting and especially when his decision doesn’t seem to be well thought out or stable. Normally he’s far from stupid or reckless in what he does. He says he’s too old (40) and doesn’t want another child even though money wouldn’t be a worry. Anyone had similar? Or any advice at all?