Deciding whether to have abortion or not..

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I'm very early into a pregnancy that was planned but now I'm just freaking out and keep thinking an abortion would be best.
I have a 3 year old who needs a lot of attention (potential autism), my relationship isn't brilliant (I honestly don't even know why we tried.. maybe I thought it would help us), I suffer with severe anxiety and I don't think I can cope with the sickness and side effects of pregnancy mentally.

I'm probably 50/50 whether to go ahead. Any advice from anyone who has been in a similar position would be greatly appreciated.

You're probably just freaking out op the pregnancy hormones are difficult and it doesn't help if your suffering with symptoms.
Take your time to think about it how it would be from both perspectives.
What you don't want to happen is to regret it then try again too soon.

I don't know how your relationship is, only you know if you can work through things and if he offers much support to you.

You poor thing. I think it's a very difficult decision. Only you can decide what to do but in your situation if I was struggling with one autistic child I would be concerned about the potential of having another and with your relationship where it is I may decide to terminate but you should take your time to decide.

This can only be your choice, but since you asked for opinions, here's mine... Challenging 3 year old, anxiety issues, and mostly, your rocky relationship, which another baby will not repair, I would terminate.

Try to think about it logically. I recently terminated due to severe health anxiety although I would have been a high risk pregnancy so my anxiety wasn’t completely unfounded. If you can’t see your relationship lasting however that is a different story as you are thinking logically in that respect.
Pregnancy hormones play a massive part early on I believe and although you planned it it’s normal to freak out. I believe had I continued, things may have got easier for me but I think it would of still been a very anxious time for me until the baby arrived and we were both safe. I really wanted the baby so I do have regrets however I can also see that it probably wasn’t a good time for us and we would have found another baby challenging with cost of childcare, house and car not big enough and being able to give the kids we have everything we want to and I also have very difficult pregnancies.

My advice having been in your position would be....

1. Dont rush into anything
2. Ask yourself you want a baby? If you do you may regret termination
3. Speak to health professionals about your worries (I was too embarrassed to go too much into things with them and afterwards I really wish I had as they have been brilliant since)
4. Ask yourself if your relationship is rocky could you do this by yourself / joint custody? Do you have support?
5. Try not let your anxiety get the better of you and think about things logically or confide in someone who knows you inside and out to help you rationalise you’re feelings.

Sorry your feeling like this it’s a very anxious time xx