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Still ongoing 3months on

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Mummyto3GBG · 04/02/2021 10:56

Hi all, I had a termination 3 months ago. I was extremely anxious about being pregnant a 4th time after 3 sections and being told the risks increase the more u have. I felt I had to do what was right for the 3 kids I have and my youngest was only 9months.

I went through a medical abortion at home, physically it was fine but I struggled emotionally as I would have loved another baby. I never had any follow up from this except doing a pregnancy test which was positive at 3 weeks but neg by 4/5 weeks post.

Since then emotionally I have been improving and moving forward thinking that if in the future we want another baby I can speak to a consultant before trying and weigh up the risks. However, physically since the termination I have been having on/off bleeding, sometimes brown, sometimes bright red with some extremely big clots and blood pouring out of me. I’d avoided being seen as I was embarrassed. However I ended up having to go to a&e the other day as it was so heavy and basically flooding the bathroom and was sent for a scan. They couldn’t work out if it was retained tissue or a polyp but thought it was a polyp which they said is caused by a change in hormone levels. They didn’t say this but I’m assuming was due to terminating as my hormones will of been high then suddenly dropped and I never had a polyp or irregular bleeding before. They gave me meds to stop the bleeding and sent me on my way to await an appt in the post for further investigation/ removal.

Has anyone else had this? I’ve obviously now googled this and assumed I’m either going to be infertile from this so thrown away my last chance of another baby or it’s cancer or ill need a hysterectomy or it’s not a polyp and something much worse. Which obviously would be all my fault.

I just want things to be back to normal, don’t feel like I can move on and it’s 3 months post termination now. I don’t know why I’m writing this but so many women on here has been so supportive before and I guess I feel alone and unable to talk to anyone about it.

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AnnaliseH · 08/02/2021 22:24

Hi @Mummyto3GBG, thank you for telling your story and sorry to hear about the pain you have gone through...

I am so glad we have a place like this to talk anonymously, hearing about other women's experiences and being able to tell about yours without judgement can really help.

You know, I have this odd on-off bleeding too! Just like you described. Apart from mine doesn't get heavy anymore. But the alternating bright red, then brown is totally what I get too.

A bit of an odd question, do your boobs still feel funny? You know, like when you were pregnant?

It's good that the potential polyp situation is being looked into. You are doing the right thing.

Like you am also hoping I might get pregnant again but have decided to just let it be a while and see what happens. I hope you feel better soon. If there's anything you'd like to talk trough in "gory detail" Blush, just message me.

By the way, how many weeks gestation were you? I was 8+3. Saw the foetus too...Not something I'd forget soon, I don't think.

Mel1917 · 08/02/2021 23:34

I’m so sorry to here you are still suffering @mummyto3GBG could you get any support from the association you went through for the termination? I know BPAS were really great for me(not that I had it as bad as you have had it)

It must be really difficult for you to try and heal emotionally when you’re still healing physically. Xx

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