Pregnant with 3rd

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I'm pregnant with my third child, only 5 weeks but partner is adamant that he doesn't want it. I have two small children and just unsure what to do, I feel like if I had support I could do this but having him resentful of me going thru a pregnancy with two little ones would be really hard. I know he will threaten to leave if I don't have an abortion. Any advice?

Hi hun sorry youre going through this. One thing you didn't mention is how you really really feel about it, putting your partners feelings aside. Do you want the baby or are you unsure? Xx

I'm not sure how I feel, if I had support I would be thrilled and excited. But I know it will be so hard on my own, really not sure. I can't get a phone consultation for another two weeks and the further it goes on, the harder it will be to give up. Thanks for replying

How old are your other two children? Are they his too?
How long have you been together, is he committed to get married?

I guess you have consider that you would be alone with 3 young children and how you would cope with that?

Sorry you're going through this ☹️

Other two are 2 and 3 and are his. Yeah we've been together for years, not engaged but committed, we have a house together.

I know its hard but try to see these 2 weeks as time to think before the consultation. Its horrible I know :( I know how hard it is without support we have no family near by and it is daunting. Do you have friends around you? If you went through with the termination would you resent him? X

I'm not sure if I could get passed it... I don't blame him about not wanting another child but acting as if termination is just taking tablets and the pregnancy magically disappears is making me hate all men. I just feel really sad.

If that's how you feel about it then I'd be worried you might feel regret afterwards, if you went through with a termination. That can be a very difficult thing to deal with and might end up negatively affecting your relationship with your partner anyway.

It's such a difficult situation to be in. Can you get counselling, even on the phone? I think it might help you to talk to even just one other person about this, a counsellor ideally.

Aw hun as @truthwarrior17 said i would be worried it would cause a lot of resentment an d breakdown if termination isn't what u really want. Can you both maybe go and talk to someone? I wonder if maybe he's in shock but might come around? Or do you think he won't change his mind ? X

He'll definitely not change his mind, even though I really hope he does. I just don't understand why he'd leave me and the children over this, it's not like it's someone else's baby.

The choice is entirely yours, I would think very long and hard though about having a termination to please your partner. It can’t be undone and you may end up with regret and resentment.
He has a right to his opinion and probably just thinking logically, but don’t let yourself be pushed into a termination if that’s not what you want.