Looking for advice or experiences

[Bobthebobcat]

I've just found out I'm pregnant, my period was due yesterday so it's very early. I have a 2 year old and we would like more children. However the issue is that I left my job in January to start another one, I haven't started yet and am waiting for a start date. It's a really good job with really good pay. The plan was to start trying for a baby once I'd been there around 6 months but this has totally thrown me. I feel like now is not the right time, I've been very stressed at the moment and have not been looking after myself as I would if we were trying. Also finances would be an issues I wouldnt get pay over mat leave. I really do think that abortion is the right choice for me and my family at this time. I'm not sure what I need to do? It probably sounds callous but I'd rather get this sorted sooner rather than later. Does anyone know what the process is? How long it takes to get an appointment? Any help would be much appreciated. I always said that I would worry about regretting the decision later but at the moment it feels like the best choice for all concerned, will the clinic try and talk me out of it?

Any help would be much appreciated.

I had an abortion last year. I found out I was pregnant when I was four weeks. After reading a lot of other women's abortion experiences, I decided to have a surgical abortion. I had to wait until I was 6 weeks, then I went in for a scan. They are then supposed to book you in for the procedure but I asked if they could fit me in that day, which they could. I did have a six hour wait, but the procedure itself was over so quickly and was pain free.

You can phone either Marie Stopes or BPAS directly and everything happens pretty quickly from there. BPAS are not currently doing surgical abortions under 12 weeks though.

I found it quicker to get an appointment through Marie Stopes but I could of got lucky, call both and get a consultation booked in, at the moment it can take days/weeks just to get a consultation. Call back for cancellations if you think the wait is too long. I went to clinic because collecting the pills was quicker but they can post them.

@VHarvey79 thank you for your experiences. I really appreciate it, I'm finding it all quite anxious and I don't really feel I can talk to anyone in real life apart from my partner. Can I ask how you felt afterwards?

@honeysuckle21 thanks, I'm worried I will have to wait, I have to start my new job soon and would just like to get this over with. I have called BPS (Marie Stopes dont operate in my area) they said a doctor will call me in 24 hours for a consultation (I'm guessing it wont be tonight now). Just hoping I can get it done soon. Can I ask how you felt afterwards?

[quote Bobthebobcat]@VHarvey79 thank you for your experiences. I really appreciate it, I'm finding it all quite anxious and I don't really feel I can talk to anyone in real life apart from my partner. Can I ask how you felt afterwards?[/quote]
I was very tearful after but felt relieved. I'm starting to regret it though. I'd be five months pregnant now. I'm dreading when it comes to my due date.

@Bobthebobcat that's reassuring you can get a consultation within 24hrs, you shouldn't have to wait that long for the pills then hopefully. How I felt afterwards? Physically much better, the pregnancy symptoms had almost disappeared over night, I felt I did the right thing at the time (last month) and like you I want to try for another baby within a year when circumstances are better. In some ways I regret it a bit now , at the time I was certain, pregnancy hormones and symptoms didn't help.

@honeysuckle21 @VHarvey79 sorry to hear you are starting to regret it. It's so difficult you can only make a decision on what is best for you and your family at that time. Theres no crystal ball to see how things would have been. I had my consultation today and they are sending the pills, should receive them tomorrow. I feel relieved after hearing they were going to be sent asap. I think I've made the right decision, I suppose only time will tell. I hope you both have support in real life and thanks so much for your honest opinions, it's really appreciated!