Could I be pregnant again 3 weeks after medical abortion?

[Liliann]

Hi All,

A bit of an odd question. Would appreciate your advice.

Three weeks ago I had a medical abortion because the discovery of a surprise pregnancy took me completely aback. I was two months gone by then and had no idea. It was a very difficult decision and I kept changing my mind. After the medical abortion took place at home and I saw the foetus (horrible experience), I regretted the whole thing right away. Am already a mum of two, so I just equated the foetus with a baby and that was that. Regret.

So now three weeks on I took the low-sensitivity test, given by the clinic, and it came back a very-very faint positive. Took a normal home urine test today, not digital, and a faint positive again. That was in the middle of the day, so not even first thing in the morning.

I have had sex with my husband a couple of times since the procedure and for certain one of those times the condom had split. So the question is--could I possibly be pregnant again? Or am I just desperately hoping as a strange way of reversing my abortion decision? Breasts are definitively tingly too. Running to the loo every half an hour..Phantom symptoms galore!

I know, I have to wait for at least one more week and test again but am just too impatient...

All words of wisdom appreciated. Thank you!

I guess you could be pregnant again if you ovulated right after the MA.

I feel for you. Had a medical abortion in December 2018. I have 2 children and husband really didn't want a third. Thought it was going to ruin our lives. I was also about to be made redundant in 3 months time (and needed to hang on for redundancy) so we worried about how I'd get a job or get maternity pay. I had struggled with anxiety and depression as well and had found a good balance again after taking medication. Worried about coming off them. The regret afterwards was horrific. But I've come to terms with it. It's a horrible feeling and it will pass. It sounds awful what you went through at home.

You may well be pregnant. You shouldn't be testing positive 3 weeks after a MD. I got my period about 2 or 3 weeks after mine and had tested negative as well. You're having symptoms as well. It's probably too early for a digital, maybe wait 5 days or so. Hang in there x x

3 weeks after an MA that should have read.

I think you really need to consider hormonal contraception.

@albairlanda, thank you for your kind words. So sorry to hear you went through a similar thing. Good to know that the intense grief eventually subsides. I'm in my late thirties now so if my husband and I want another child, there's not much time left. But with everything that's going on in the world at the moment, I can't think clearly.

Hormones are not funny, are they...

@Youngatheart00, you are probably right! I have been avoiding hormonal stuff because it affects me too much (awful acne when on the pill). But, my God, a repeat of that abortion experience is not something I plan on ever again.

It’s possible I think. I got pregnant a couple of weeks after a miscarriage which is similar. Basically you know the termination worked because you saw it so your body may have immediately registered that you were no longer pregnant and you could have ovulated fairly soon afterwards.

Sorry for what you have been through as well. I have had a very similar experience and also carry the regret. I still constantly think about having another baby 2 years later.

I had a similar situation and ended up having to take another one from the clinic at four weeks (it still showed positive) and then one at 5 weeks when it was finally negative. So it is possible that it is taking longer to take out of your system- sometimes pregnancy product can be left too. Try not to worry just yet.

@NC866, that must have been tough, what you have gone through. I hope you find peace soon regarding having another baby, whichever decision you make.

Forgive me for being nosy, how did you feel during the early days of that post-miscarriage pregnancy? How long did it take until you realised you were pregnant again?

Thank you for sharing your story..

@Catsandfrogsanddogs, that's exactly what the BPAS nurse told me on the phone today. It's likely just the left-over hormones. A new pregnancy at such short gestation would not be detectable yet. Do you mind me asking how many weeks gone you were when you had the termination?

It's hard to tell with the intermittent bleeding whether it's period or just the uterus contracting back to off-duty size after the abortion. Plus, I did actually have bleeding when I was pregnant that very last time, which is why I didn't spot the whole thing!!

Could you not of taken the emergency pill? The condom split once... and you have sex again? After a recent abortion OP.

@Poppyseeds2, hi, thank you for your comment. I am sorry I didn't make it very clear in my post that I wasn't too sure of my decision to have a termination. Of course, I know about the morning after pill. I didn't want to take it because I am hoping I might be pregnant. Silly, irrational hope. When I saw the foetus, I felt I lost a baby. And now I just want to bring that baby back, which is of course impossible. Hope this makes sense.

Possible but unlikely - has just taken me 6 weeks to test negative after MMC surgery because the hormones stayed high a long time.

How many weeks pregnant were you? If over 9, the hormones can be v high

Ahhh I see. My misunderstanding.

Are you sure though? What made you have a termination in the first place?

@TheDaydreamBelievers, you are very likely right. I was eight weeks three days.

@Poppyseeds2, mostly I was worried that we couldn't afford another child. And then the whole thing of looking after a baby...it's very hard work, isn't it? My youngest is a year and a half, so it's all rather fresh in my mind. Plus I felt so tired and sick with the pregnancy, I felt depressed. Husband wanted to keep the baby but I just couldn't see how I could cope.

Not that I see it now, which is why I keep saying that it's irrational. I'll get over it eventually. Not long left till I dry out like a prune and then all baby angst gone. Has to be some positive to ageing!

What brings you to this section of the site, @Poppyseeds2? Sorry, am nosy...

What does your partner think of the situation? Does he want another child? If he wore a condom, I’m thinking not, so I hope you mentioned the condom splitting and that you weren’t going to take the MAP?

@Liliann I just knew I was pregnant again quite soon, I could tell from the way I felt if that makes sense. Just a shift in feeling and a bit of nausea setting in. I tested about 6 weeks after the miscarriage and got a positive.

@LochJessMonster you’re sounding a little judgey... the OP has already said her partner wanted another baby. I’m sure he knows full well the condom split, he was the one wearing it and the one that took it off presumably! The OP isn’t asking for moral judgement on whether she should have a baby, just advice on whether she could be pregnant so soon.

I was 7 weeks. I'm sorry you're going through this stress (I remember being very stressed out too). The wait is horrible. As you said, if it was a new pregnancy then it wouldn't show yet.

Hi all,

I’m 4.5 weeks post abortion of 8 weeks and 4 days. I feel terrible though. Feel flat and tearful. My period hasn’t returned as yet either.

I did your hormones feel afterwards? I was ok for about 2 weeks but now feel I’ve got verybad pmt.

I’m hoping it’s all hormone related.

@Liliann

Hi All,

A bit of an odd question. Would appreciate your advice.

Three weeks ago I had a medical abortion because the discovery of a surprise pregnancy took me completely aback. I was two months gone by then and had no idea. It was a very difficult decision and I kept changing my mind. After the medical abortion took place at home and I saw the foetus (horrible experience), I regretted the whole thing right away. Am already a mum of two, so I just equated the foetus with a baby and that was that. Regret.

So now three weeks on I took the low-sensitivity test, given by the clinic, and it came back a very-very faint positive. Took a normal home urine test today, not digital, and a faint positive again. That was in the middle of the day, so not even first thing in the morning.

I have had sex with my husband a couple of times since the procedure and for certain one of those times the condom had split. So the question is--could I possibly be pregnant again? Or am I just desperately hoping as a strange way of reversing my abortion decision? Breasts are definitively tingly too. Running to the loo every half an hour..Phantom symptoms galore!

I know, I have to wait for at least one more week and test again but am just too impatient...

All words of wisdom appreciated. Thank you!

Hi Lilliann, How are you and your husband going now that it is a few months down the track?

I hope you've found peace with your decision (as much as is possible).

I had a medical abortion 2 weeks ago, and same as you saw the foetus (accidentally) and now feel absolute grief and sadness most of the time. I have a 3 and 1 year old too, so like you seeing it made it a baby to me..

X

Hi guys I also been in MA last may 10 and continue the bleeding til may 16.. three days were heavy with big clots.. on the second day i passed one hard elongated clot i was 6weeks that time from LMP all of my test are negative including serum b hcg and beta hcg also HPT are negatives did 2 scans tvs and whole abdomen and pelvic didn't find anything all clear.. i did'nt get period on june but doctor gave me norethisterone to induce period and ut came 4days after my coarse of tablet.. im having anxiety and depression because i didn't get my peroid again this july thingking im still pregnant.. i have major back ache after the pill and treated with diclofenax have also infection treated with antibiotics.. im worried did my abortion worked?? Pretty sure im ovulating as I have EWCM since 2nd week of july until now.. i dont know if im having swellbreast but they feel heavy.. but not achy when u touch it.. hope someone can help me.