Experiences, Medical Abortion 8 weeks and the wait.

[YnysMon20]

Hi All.
I found out I was pregnant last Monday. The soonest they could book me in for a telephone consultation was the 6th January, I have phoned numerous providers but I’m limited to one that will only treat women in Wales. I am struggling with the waiting, not because I am unsure of my decision but because I am so sick. I hope that doesn’t come across as cruel.
I have a 2 year old. We are in the process of moving house. I have only just recovered, if you can say that, from PND - I feel like I’ve missed so much already with my DD. My decision has solely been around protecting her, in addition to the fact I have no family support and would be paying up to 1400£ childcare a month for 5 months as my daughter would not be at school. I would need to return to work early as financially I cannot afford to be off for the whole 12 months. It’s a practical decision, one I have not taken lightly. We had failed contraception and I also took Ella one which obviously didn’t work.
I will be 8 weeks, coming up to, when I receive the treatment they assess correct for me to have. I assume, but know it’s not 100% it’ll be the pills by post. I am so anxious about the experience itself and not knowing what to expect. Is anyone able to share their experiences? Some practical tips? And perhaps some tips for the wait I’m currently facing? I would really appreciate it.
Thank you.

Was in similar position as you: Wales, had to wait 10 days for pills, with an under-2 toddler, extremely sick (had hyperemesis in previous pregnancy).

By the time I took the pills I was 7 weeks gone. The wait for 10 days for the pills was agonising, I was literally counting the hours. Thank god my husband works from home and could take time to look after our toddler.

In terms of the sickness, just keep sipping whatever fluids you can. As you're planning on termination, there's no harm in drinking caffeine drinks etc. Personally I couldn't tolerate water, but full fat coke and fizzy water with blackcurrant juice kept me hydrated. Just drink whatever you can. I say this as someone who had to be hospitalised due to dehydration during my first pregnancy with my now toddler.

In terms of the experience itself - because of the health board I live in, I had an hour's drive each way to get to the clinic to pick up all the tablets. My husband drove for that hour, how on earth I managed the journey with severe sickness I have no idea. I just nibbled on dry toast all the way through and took a bucket with me just in case.

I took both sets of tablets at home, 24 hours apart. The main problem for me was keeping the first tablet down for 3 hours - ie not vomiting. I managed to do this by keeping absolutely still in front of the TV and just slowly sipping fluids and nibbling on dry toast.

I inserted the 2nd set of tablets inside me 24 hours later. Bleeding started within 3 hours and was heavy. I suffered the loss about an hour after that. Bleeding then calmed down and went on for some days afterwards but quite light. Some cramping for the first hour of bleeding but I wouldn't describe it as bad pain to be honest. They gave me cocodamol to take for pain but I didn't need it, I just used a hot water bottle and that was sufficient. I also kept hydrated and got my appetite back whilst bleeding as the sickness subsided so could munch on healthy things.

No other side effects of the tablets. My pregnancy sickness eased after the bleeding started, so much so I could eat things I hadn't been able to for a couple of weeks previously.

I took a pregnancy test (which the clinic gave me) 3 weeks later which showed it had worked. My period arrived 4 weeks after the termination.

In the immediate week or so after the tablets I ensured I ate lots of things with iron in because of the blood lost.

Best of luck to you YnysMon

Thank @MrsToadlike I really appreciate your response. The wait is indeed torture, I’ve managed to try and guess when the tablets would arrive and managed to book a couple of days off work for when my toddler is in nursery. Although a difficult experience, I really am reassured by yours. I feel so anxious about the bleeding, but I think that’s to do with the birth I had and perhaps the memories being triggered from that. Again, I can’t thank you enough for your response. Wishing you a happy new year xx

I'm sorry you're having to wait a long time too. Good idea booking time off of work, I think that will help.

Re: the bleeding, I was also nervous about that beforehand. I found things to distract me - watching trashy stuff on Netflix, my husband bought some nice magazines for me to try and take my mind off of it. The hot water bottle helped a lot as well, and as my sickness eased I started to drink cups to tea.

I also forgot to say in my message yesterday - along with the 2 sets of tablets, and the painkillers (which I didn't need to use), they also provided an anti-sickness tablet. That really helped me to keep the first tablet down.

Will be thinking of you and hope the wait passes quickly for you

Hi I had a medical abortion

Due to extreme anxiety and panic attacks I’ve been suffering with 4 years 3 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. Me and my husband was over the moon

Due to anxiety and panic attacks I was on propranolol ( beta blockers ) everyday for the last 4 years so when I found out I wasn’t sure if they was safe to take
I called my dr and he told me to stop taking them so I stopped them that day
Over the last couple weeks the anxiety and panic attacks was so bad that I couldn’t cope anymore and knowing what I have to go through with the pregnancy it was the hardest choice I ever had to do

After trying many things for the anxiety and panic attacks nothing was working so I made a decision to have a abortion ( not just for my self but for the 6 year old I have got already it wasn’t nice him seeing me the way I was day in day out not be able to do anything just a constant panic attacks

My husband called the abortion clinic for me as he thought this would be the best option they gave me appointment for a telephone call which took place a few days ago they said can I come to clinic the next day to have a scan to see how far I am

I went there and had a scan and was asked a lot of things and they said I would have to take the first tablet with them I said I would like to do it all at home they asked me why and I explained to them how I was feeling about it and how scared I was so they let me take the tablets home

I was Googling to find out what happens and getting other people’s experiences on medical abortion and what I was reading was so bad that I had the worst panic attack ever and nearly passed out I was Googling for weeks
I told my other half I was gonna die it’s gonna be so bad

Anyways 2 days ago I took the first pill o was crying shaky scared for my life but took it but felt fine just a few cramps few the day the next morning after hardly no sleep and panic attacks I knew I had to take the 4 pills I didn’t no what to do with my self I managed to do the 4 pills I put them inside my gun and cheek and left them there for 30 mins then drunk a lot of water I got a sore throat from them

30 mins later I started getting the worst cramps every I didn’t even feel that bad pain when I was in labour all then years ago the pain was so bad and I’m not the one to take painkillers but I took 2 paracetamol and used a hot water bottle that was my life saver hour and half passed and the pain was so bad that I couldn’t walk I took the pills at 9:45 the pain was bad for 3 half hours no bleeding started then all of a sudden I got really bad runs ( lol ) then the bleeding started little clots started coming out but the bleeding wasn’t to bad it was gushes now again just like a heavy period then the pain stopped I was able to do a lot bit more but gushes now again and a cramps now again around 6pm I went to the toilet two clots came out and I said to my other half this must be the end nearly then I went into another room had to rush back to the toilet I sat on the toilet and there was u could see it clearly the tiny sac with the fetus in I was god smacked couldn’t believe it after that bleeding as been like a heavy period but not to bad still but sore

They say u can’t bath for 48 hours as it causes risk to infections so tomorrow I be able to have a bath :)

I made a decision but I honestly didn’t wanna do it as I did want another baby it’s been the hardest thing I ever had to do but it’s over woth now and it’s not as bad as people say it is best thing to do is not Google and read all these story’s on people having. Such a bad time because they told me that what people do is ring these abortion clinics up make out there so many weeks pregnant and get the pills sent to them and then there like months and months ahead or people write story’s to about how bad it is to scare people not to do it as a lot of people think it’s wrong to do

I hope this can help someone who suffer with extreme anxiety and panic attacks
Thanks for reading