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Early pregnancy and redundancy

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Ahhpregnant · 15/12/2020 14:13

I am just over 8 weeks pregnant with my second and have been told that a large selection of my coworkers and possibly myself will be made redundant on the 1st of January.
I can just afford this baby with my partners income and my part time income but the redundancy is bare minimum and next to nothing then I’d have very little help with UC and can’t afford to take on any job I can find as we can’t afford childcare and are limited with family help so would need to suit the hours I can do.

I’m at a loss, I want this baby but I can’t really bring it into this. I need to have an abortion don’t I? Any advice on getting through this?

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MoonCat77 · 15/12/2020 22:10

I’m so, so sorry about your situation. You must feel in an awful position. Is there any way you can speak to family about your worries to see if you can somehow plan how you would manage? You don’t sound like you want to have an abortion at all. Maybe try to talk to a counsellor through BPAS to see if they can offer any advice?
This is a heartbreaking decision to make and it’s clear how much you love and want to protect your family. I’m sorry I can’t help but I hope you find a way through this xxx

Phie04 · 16/12/2020 08:09

Don't assume you need an abortion due to redundancy. I found out I was pregnant in July and was made redundant in August. I'm still out of work and will also get barely any help with UC. Partner is on minimum wage but can still get maternity etc which everyone is entitled to. I know it is a very difficult time but please know you are not the only one in this situation. There is support and guaranteed you aren't the only person going through this. Try and make a little group on here or join a facebook one for your due month and chat with others that may be in a finiancial pickle. I have had my ups and downs with this pregnancy and have cried multiple times over our situation, but I wouldn't change it for the world. As soon as I felt those little kicks I knew I had done the right thing.
I couldn't go through another abortion and it's the best decision I've ever made. You will scrape by don't panic. You probably have lots of stuff you can use from baby no1 so won't need to splash the cash on cribs, furniture, etc. You can get things very cheap like nappies, second hand clothes, and if you breast feed rather than formula then extra bonus on the money front! Things will look up, it always does.

PurBal · 16/12/2020 08:16

Sorry you're in this position OP. I would tell your boss that you're pregnant and you don't want the baby to affect your chances of retaining your job. You have more protection when having a baby than at any other time and doing this saved a friend from redundancy. It might not, but I would say worth a punt. From CAB "If you are on maternity or parental leave, and there is a genuine reason to make your role redundant, your employer must offer you suitable alternative work if they have it. They should give you this as a priority over other employees."

Ahhpregnant · 16/12/2020 09:11

I really don’t want an abortion but I can’t imagine bringing another little one into a life where I’m going to struggle to provide for it. My employer is moving some staff into alternative positions and I have spoken to them about my pregnancy and hope to retain my employment but they don’t seem included to this in my case. I spoke with HR who advised I’ll have a individual meeting soon to discuss redundancy so it seems this is looking like the only way out for me. If they could have announced the plans for this a few months back I’d have certainly held off on falling pregnant.

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