How did you know when you were done having babies?

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I've got 2 girls, aged 3 & 8 months.

Once the second baby was out, I just felt like I really wanted another one. Thought that feeling might change with sleepless nights etc., but I just felt euphoric for months, and I still really want another one.

We won't have any more as partner doesn't want any more (he's very hands on and does absolutely loads, so I completely understand it from his point of view). But I just have this deep yearning for another one.

Does this feeling go?? How did you know you were done with having children?

@Sarahandduck18 😂😂😂. I never even liked babies before having one, and it wasn't until my 2nd arrived that I suddenly became obsessed.

I have moments when it's difficult where I think "fuck doing this again", and then when they are both asleep, I want another 😂.

Deep down I know it's a bad idea! The house isn't big enough for another one, we would be living off tins of beans. I almost keeled over in my 2nd pregnancy and could barely do anything for months, so really it's just a bad idea!!

You just know.
My third was a surprise, and my whole prgnancy with him was awful but I knew it was the last time.
Nowadays I look at babies and think.......awwww how cute, thank fuck I'm not doing that again!
My friends all laugh at me when I say I'm cured from being broody

I didn't want any children so we compromised on one. DH had the the snip when she was 5 months old - there is no way on this earth either of us would do the newborn phase again.

I just felt nothing but huge relief bagging up her baby stuff as she grew out of it. Not once have I ever felt even a tinge of 'what if'.

I am in this exact situation, we have 4year old and a 10 month old. Ever since having my youngest i have been non stop thinking about having a third! My OH is a wonderful dad and partner but has a child from another relationship so if definitely done he doesn't want anymore children and he is sure.
I am full of questions and I'm not sure how to answer them😂
But how do i know if i am done? What if i wanted another?
Do i think about a third because the option isn't on the table?

I guess in time we will figure out if it will work for us and our family😁

For me, I walked out of my last antenatal appointment going "I'm not doing that again." Never had a wobble even 9 years later.

Among those I know, there seems to be some that click like me, others where it fades (particularly after passing on baby things as ScubaSteven described), and others where it's a conscious choice to move onto the next stage (whether because it's just a bad idea like you OP or pregnancy is just not happening well) even when they regularly still get broody.