pregnant with # 4 and single.

[anonymous30]

hello.
I am pregnant with my 4th child. I was with the Dad for 2 years but he lives over an hour away (not the father to my other 3) we are friends but split because he likes being alone ultimately.

I am 35 and have just qualified as a primary teacher. I have 3 children (2 fathers) aged 14, 9 and 8.

My house is small.

He never wanted children.

Yet despite all this I am torn as to what to do. I don't think I could go through with a termination, I think i would forever regret it yet all the situations in my life say I would be stupid to keep it. As do some family members.

Any advise greatly recieved x

He will step up once the baby is here. This is a precious child growing inside of you that you will both grow to love when it arrives.
You can do this.

Your dc are of an age where you can start to have a bit more flexibility and freedom and your new career is the start of a new chapter. 4 dc on your own, with your career on the back burner is a lot to think about. I think the pp is being overly optimistic about your ex's involvement and you have to assume he won't be much help. If you decide to continue with the pregnancy, do so with the expectation that you will not have his support. In your position, I think I would have to choose to terminate, I'm a single parent and it's really hard sometimes, I just dont think I could make it even harder.

@jellymaker really? Plenty of men don't 'step up' or get involved in their children at any point in their lives.
You know how difficult (or easy?) it's been to raise 3, have a think about what you want from life and how difficult this could be on your own. Respect to anyone who could do it alone but it's bloody hard. Would you still be able to work? Would your current children be affected?

He will step up once the baby is here lol

OP you want to have this baby so don't let anyone persuade you to do anything you don't want to.

There is zero guarantee that he will “step up” or even financially contribute. You need to make your decision on the assumption you get no involvement or cash from him