Stoll Overwhelmed 3 weeks after test... what to do

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Hey, I'm a 36 Yr old step mum of 2 children and 2 weeks ago had the shock our life when we tested pregnant during a unitary tract infection pee test.
We have spoken about children and I've always been aware of my age but we are both so shocked and overwhelmed. This will be my first and always dreamed of feeling so different than I do. I've been to EPU on Monday and was 8w+1 and can't stop crying...
Anyone else just so shocked they can't process or that it doesn't feel real??? My partner is acting like it isn't happening and says he doesn't feel excited either.... ive Googled terminations and babys for days and it all just feels so false and forced as I genuinely feel like it's not real and have no connection to seeing a baby at the end...
Help..!!!

Unexpected pregnancies don’t always feel exciting and it may need time to sink in. Also, when it’s still early it doesn’t actually feel real for many women... it tends to become much more real, exciting and all that once the pregnancy progresses. So it’s absolutely not abnormal to feel detached and like it’s not real. One thing to consider is your fertility will decrease as time goes on. Not to say that if you don’t have the baby now you never will but the odds will start to go against you. It’s something to really consider. I would have a good think about what to do and talk to your partner. Ultimately it’s your decision and what’s best for you & your family.

I had a planned pregnancy but still felt the first 12 weeks were such a confusing and surprising time. It never felt real to me and I didn't get a big bonding overwhelming experience until I was about half way and started to get a bump and feel movement.

Just because it doesn't feel immediately exciting doesn't mean it's not right. Also you do need to factor in your age.

I wish you best of luck with your choice and peace with whatever path you choose

I think it's totally normal, I felt like this with both my pregnancies and one was planned! I think your feelings can improve as the pregnancy progresses if you decide it's what you want.