Is it normal to cry after a termination

[Azzizia]

I cried at the clinic and no one else was crying. I feel so ashamed about my behaviour.

Yes, it is completely normal and it doesn't make it the wrong decision, it's an emotional decision and you are allowed to feel grief. Be kind to yourself

I just went through this on Thursday (and completed the termination yesterday evening) and I cried the whole way through my appointment with the nurse even though I was and still am 100% confident it was the right thing to do.

You are full of hormones and this likely has been a tough situation for you, no matter what the circumstances were. It's such a big and emotive decision. Everyone deals with it differently so not everyone in the waiting room would want or need to cry.

Let yourself feel your feelings and ride them out. Have you got someone in real life to support you?

Sending you a big virtual hug x

Absolutely, it's an emotional decision whatever reason it's made for and as already said you are allowed to feel grief. I still look back now 12 years on, tinged with sadness. Do not pour more stress and guilt on yourself.

Yes. It's a difficult decision.

@Georgie371

I just went through this on Thursday (and completed the termination yesterday evening) and I cried the whole way through my appointment with the nurse even though I was and still am 100% confident it was the right thing to do.

You are full of hormones and this likely has been a tough situation for you, no matter what the circumstances were. It's such a big and emotive decision. Everyone deals with it differently so not everyone in the waiting room would want or need to cry.

Let yourself feel your feelings and ride them out. Have you got someone in real life to support you?

Sending you a big virtual hug x

No I don’t have anyone.

Of course it is . X

Sounds very normal to me. You're allowed to feel sad even if you know it's the right decision.

Why was no one else crying?

I also find it really bad that I wasn’t seen until 4.30 and had been at the clinic from the morning. I was so grumpy from no food or water, and of course sheer boredom. I was told at 11am “you will be next”....

You will never know what was going through the minds of the other people there. Some people have delayed reactions, some start with shock or relief then move onto sadness. There's no right way to feel. We're you given a number to contact for counselling services? This isn't something you need to go through alone.
With terminations I always think it's the one decision that you would regret whatever you decide. So try to hold on to the fact that these emotions are all normal and you will get through this and once the feelings subside you will be able to get back to normal, carrying a little extra love in your heart for something you had to let go of.

Yes, of course! That's a completely normal reaction and they will have seen it all before. Please be kind to yourself, you've been through a difficult thing. Imagine a lovely friend had asked you the same question and treat yourself accordingly.

@LauraAshleySofa

You will never know what was going through the minds of the other people there. Some people have delayed reactions, some start with shock or relief then move onto sadness. There's no right way to feel. We're you given a number to contact for counselling services? This isn't something you need to go through alone. With terminations I always think it's the one decision that you would regret whatever you decide. So try to hold on to the fact that these emotions are all normal and you will get through this and once the feelings subside you will be able to get back to normal, carrying a little extra love in your heart for something you had to let go of.

Thank you.

There is no point is counselling. I spoke to them before as I was undecided and it was pointless.

I’m just said about life. I have zero friends.

@BeautifulandWilfulandDead

Yes, of course! That's a completely normal reaction and they will have seen it all before. Please be kind to yourself, you've been through a difficult thing. Imagine a lovely friend had asked you the same question and treat yourself accordingly.

Apart from the fact I don’t have any friends (I’m being serious) I was just a burden to everyone. I was so tired from being there so long and no food. I’m just a failure at life and the guy is telling me that he never liked me and that I wrecked his life.

@Azzizia I hope you managed to get some sleep last night. I am thinking of you and sending kind wishes your way. Please don't be afraid to reach out to people you know, starting with your work boss or HR department if you have one. Wonderful and supportive people are found in the unlikeliest of places, you might be surprised to find that many people have been through this even though they don't speak about it publicly.

Good luck for today, treat yourself well. You don't need to get out of bed if you don't want to, you don't need to eat healthy foods unless you want to. Let yourself recover.

Thank you.
I have to tell my work colleague but she’s pro life so it won’t go on well.

Why do you have to tell her? Why not someone else who will support you ?

You sound really sad - please think about getting some counselling .

Have you dumped and blocked the guy yet ?

So why did I tell her - why not? You don’t know peoples stance until they tell you. And she was supportive either way.

Please understand that there is little help available.

Please also don’t comment again.

I cried as well and felt that everyone else in the clinic looked pretty “normal”. I guess you don’t know what’s going in in other peoples heads though.

I’m still crying over a month afterwards OP!

I've not been through it but would have thought it I did I would cry. It's an emotional decision and you have all the extra hormones too.

I didn't cry at first, think I was numb to the whole thing. However I cried a lot in the months that followed, it's normal and good to allow yourself to feel how you feel rather than suppress it.

@Azzizia

I cried at the clinic and no one else was crying. I feel so ashamed about my behaviour.

Why would you feel ashamed? Don't.

And why not cry? Crying is the most natural reaction to what has happened.

Before, during, after... even later when you're telling yourself you 'should' have put it behind you. If that's how you feel, it's fine.