I'm desperately in need of some support and guidance please. I am almost 45 and just found out I am pregnant (period just 3 days late).
My husband and I agree that the best option for our family is to terminate, the risks are too high in view of my age but also because we are expats in a country where there are extremely limited medical facilities. We already have two DD.
I went to the expat family doctor this morning for a referal to a gynacologist but he simply informed me that he doesn't do 'that procedure' and could not help. I then found a gynacologist at the main hospital who wanted to do an internal ultrasound to check that the pregnancy was not ectopic. I did not feel comfortable to let him do that as had only spoken of the option of a surgical termination and did not even offer a medical termination which I was expecting in view of the early stage of pregnancy.
I feel so judged by the medical profession instead of supported. What surprises me the most is that the attitude of both these doctors is not making me doubt my decision but more resolute that I have the right to decide what happens to my body.
To make matters worse, my husband is angry that I did not simply let the gynacologist do the internal ultrasound but I honestly don't know why the doctor is questionning whether the pregnancy could be ectopic.
Am I right in thinking that a medical termination is possible at this stage? Psycologically I think I would find it easier than a surgical procedure. Thanks so much for any advice you can give.