TTC after termination

[ElowenSmile]

Anyone terminated a shock pregnancy and regretted it so much they have gone on to start to ttc within a month or 2? I feel completely ridiculous but unfortunately this is the situation I am in and it would be nice to hear from others that felt the same.

I already have 2dc aged 5 and 2, both of whom we struggled to conceive so needless to say a sudden accidental pregnancy took us by surprise. I was scared but wanted the baby. My husband did not. Basically I went along with the termination believing it to be the sensible and right thing to dofor my family. It was 100% the wrong decision for me.

My husband still doesn't really want another child, but I feel like I cannot live with the grief and regret unless I have another baby. He has accepted this.

4 months post termination and 3 months into ttc. I don't think I will ever get so lucky again and have thrown away my chance

I did manage to conceive after a termination as many friends of mine have, however I waited 2 years and I'm glad I did now as I was not in the right place mentally to try again straight away. I did consider it and also wanted to try again straight away but I realised that all the issues I had before I terminated had not gone away and I had to get myself into a better place mentally. I think for me the thought of trying again was me trying to undo what I'd done, not saying that it's the same for you but you are still so early days after the termination, maybe you could have some counselling to try and unpick how you feel?

I don't think another baby will take away the grief and regret, only time will make it easier and acceptance that you made a choice that you felt best at the time can do that.
Hope you are okay

Thanks for your kind reply. I completely respect what you are saying, but unfortunately time is not on my side as I am pushing 40 and I don't want too big an age gap either.

You are probably right about counselling but I have no idea where to access that support.

I rushed into the termination thinking I was doing the right thing and that I may as well get on with it as it wouldn't get any easier to do. I just wish I had spoken to a friend or my Mum first, as my only confidante was my husband who was 100% against continuing with the pregnancy.

@ElowenSmile start with your GP. The abortion provider will usually offer counselling sessions after treatments as well.
I was in your shoes but went the other way. Unexpected pregnancy, DH did not want it but I ultimately decided I couldn’t terminate. I’ve been struggling with guilt, anxiety and depression following my decision. My GP has been very helpful in terms of counselling and offering further treatments.
You did what you thought was right for your family and of course you want to make a quick decision.
I hope you’re able to talk to your husband and would really urge you to have counselling. Either through your abortion provider or GP.

Hi @ElowenSmile, how did your story end? Did you go on to have another pregnancy?