Termination

[rperrina]

Hi, so I need some help. My husband and I found out yesterday we are pregnant. Complete shock for both as I have the coil (apparently its meant to be bullet proof).

We have two beautiful boys 5 and 3 already and live in a nice village.

But we are so torn on what to do?! Do we want another baby - not really we are both happy with life st the moment
I'm not sure I would cope mentally becuase I struggled with our second. (We both nearly died at birth)
I'm happy with life now, no nappies, no prams no nursery fees. We are a bit freeer now.

But, these are all selfish reasons not to bring another child into the world! Is that enough?

I hate the word abortion and am scared to go down thst path too.

Any advice, experiences would be helpful.

Also, I'm not a natural mum, I work hard to be a good mum and I'm stressy at times and I already get mym guilt with the two I have!

You absolutely aren't selfish, ensure you get the counselling and look after yourself

You are not selfish at all. It's your body and your choice and the decision is what is right for you and your family. I only commented as I would hate anyone to feel the regret and sadness that I do. Sorry if I have made things harder in any way.

I was in a similar position to you at the beginning of 2018... 2 beautiful daughters who were 9 & 12 at the time. No plans to add to our family & starting to enjoy a bit of freedom as they grew older & more independent. We were shocked/surprised to find out I was pregnant... I had been on the pill since my 9 year old was 6 weeks old with no false alarms or anything. We did talk about terminating the pregnancy but when it came to it, it was personally something I knew I couldn't bring myself to do - however that was me & each case is down to the individuals - no one can make that decision or force you either way. My girls are now 15, 12 & 2... with the older two's social lives/out of school activities, my work, hubby working away quite frequently, my 2 horses & looking after a toddler, family life is crazy busy but you know what, although it is not what we had planned - I wouldn't have it any other way xx

Thank you ohidoliketobe

Elowensmile Everyone's comments have been really appreciated and so helpful. You have opened up about your feelings and don't want anyone else to go through the pain you are going through and that is such a lovely thing to do and if I can give support and advice to anyone like you have I Will be very proud.

I am trying not to think about it and just to forget about it as much as I can but I feel very nauseous most of the time and im not sure if thats pregnancy or nerves/worry. I have no idea how I will feel on the other side but I am so lucky to have a good scheme through work where I can reach out to someone. Although that also terrifies me in itself.

This has been by far the hardest decision to come to terms with and never did I think I would be in this position and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.