Hi all,
I wanted to share this because the very few and far between positive stories on the internet really helped me not to be afraid and not be forced into something that would have been the wrong thing for my family and mental health.
Last month I found out I was pregnant. In the middle Of a pandemic trying to home school and work from home with my two children aged 6 and 3. My 6 year old has ADHD and is generally challenging if lovely and although DH and I had toyed with the idea of a 3rd baby once, we had decided not to and were planning for him to have the snip. When this happened (contraceptive failure, still no idea how) I was just terrified and cried and cried. We were already pushed to our limits and exhausted it was absolutely not the time for another baby. It was a horrible horrible decision to have to make but I knew from nearly as soon as I found out it would be an option.
DH tried very hard not to push me in any direction and we took a couple of days to think it over and I decided to call Marie Stopes. It was obviously very emotional but they are very supportive, non judgmental and make sure you feel sure in your decision without making you justify it, if that makes sense.
I did the medical abortion at home, still very early (just before 6w) my DH sat with me while I took the first tablet and then I just felt overwhelming relief, if still very upset obviously, but more because of the situation, the decision I didn’t doubt.
The next day before I took the next tablets I started to bleed. I called MS and they advised me to carry on so I took the other 4 tabs vaginally and it basically just seemed like a slightly more painful period, with a few gushes of blood. It was nothing drastic to someone who has had children. I stayed in bed with a hot Water bottle and watched TV (although I’d have been ok if I couldn’t have been in bed) whilst DH looked after the children. It eased off by the evening and the next day was just like period although I felt quite wobbly, but fine. I had one more day of heavy period like Bleeding before it tailed off. Since then my cycle has immediately gone back to normal.
I feel very sad that I ended up in that situation but at the same time incredibly grateful that I live in a country where I can make a choice and be safe and supported to do so.
Just wanted to put this out there in case it helps someone having to do the same thing