I'm so conflicted about what my choice is.

[Kelcat9494]

Hello,

I'm currently 13 weeks and 5 days pregnant, when I told my husband he was excited and happy to become a dad, the more people we tell they are also happy and excited, buying things for the baby etc but I'm not, when I picture my future I don't picture having a child. We've known for about ten weeks and I've tried to get excited, I've been suffering with HG and everyone's like oh it'll be worth it in the end and I'm like will it? I just feel so detached from this thing growing inside of me, we have a gender scan soon and my husband says I'll feel better once I know their gender as i can start to bond but I just can't imagine having a baby, a child etc I just don't know what to do, we've told everyone we're expecting a baby and I just feel so lost x

Hi.
I didn’t want to read and run. I’m not sure I have anything useful to say but here for a hand hold. Was it a planned pregnancy? I think feeling like this to a certain extent is normal, with the fatigue and sickness that comes in the first trimester. It hit me badly in the 3rd trimester with my 1st DC, but it was shortlived.
I guess only you know what is right for you, but it sounds like you’re in a really tough situation. Can you talk to your mum? Or a close friend?

Hi,

Thank you for replying, I've felt awful for a while but we had a gender scan on Saturday (that my husband wanted) and found out we're having a little boy and it makes more sense to me now knowing the gender, I haven't been sick in a few days either so I'm starting to feel better about it all, I guess in the first couple of months it's a lot to get your head around and how much your life will change but I'm finally seeing the light ❤️

Thanks again x