Anyone had medical abortion at 8 weeks?

[nh1994]

Hi
I'm pregnant and probably will need to have an abortion. Im just wondering if anyone who's been through it could share their experience of having a medical abortion at 8 weeks? How bad was the pain? When I pass it, will I see anything that resembles a fetus? What are the chances of it going wrong, eg the pill failing or getting an infection.
Thanks

Anyone ?

Sorry you've had no replies, I've not had an abortion, but I've had medical management of a missed miscarriage, which is the same pills and procedure. Sometimes u may need a second dose, but once things get going, the pain is fairly bad, but manageable for me with paracetamol and hot water bottle. If u pass everything on the toilet which is usual, you won't see anything other than lots and lots of blood and clots. Hope you're okay :)

Infection risk is fairly low if u follow the correct advice ie no baths for 48hrs,no sex until you've stopped bleeding completely, no tampons or mooncups etc.

I have just gone through one and it was painful but manageable. Hot water bottle, snacks and take it easy. The tablets also gave me an upset tummy and a banging headache which is one of the side effects. It wasn’t nice but not awful

Hi @nh1994

I have just gone through one yesterday. I was just over 8 weeks. I went to the hospital on Monday to take the first tablet and they gave me the other 4 to bring home to take the next day. I had no side effects from the first tablet I just carried on my day as normal.

Yesterday morning I got up about 7 took some painkillers and about 8am inserted the 4 tablets vaginally. I laid for half an hour on the bed so they could absorb. I got up and just pottered on as normal. I didn't start bleeding till about 2 hours after inserting the tablets so approx. 10am. It started quite light and then got heavier and by 12 I was bleeding quite a lot, everytime I went to the loo it was covered in blood. A couple of times I was standing up and i could just feel it coming out of me so had to rush to the toilet so just beware to be close to a toilet as there is no stopping it once its coming. A couple of times at the loo I felt a big clot pass so am hoping that was the pregnancy. It just slides out of you. It wasn't painful for me. I couldn't see anything that resembled a fetus in the toilet as it was just full of blood. Just as well really. I would say things started to settle down about 2pm and I bled heavily for the rest of the day but no more clots or gushes of blood. The pain was manageable for me but I made sure I kept up with my doses of painkillers.

Today I am bleeding but its a lot lighter. No cramps. I don't feel sickly anymore and I felt really sickly so am hoping that's a good sign it has worked. Belly still feels bloated and my breasts are still tender but it can take a few days.

The hospital gave me a pregnancy test to take 3 weeks after as it can take time for the pregnancy hormones to disappear so fingers crossed all is well.

For me the experience wasn't as bad as I was expecting. I just missed the professional support and re-assurance that I have passed the pregnancy if I had done this at hospital but I didn't have the option with being under 10 weeks and with COVID I had to do it at home.

I hope you find this helpful @nh1994. If you have any further questions please don't hesitate to ask.

take care and hope all goes well for you. xx

Hi

I had one last week at 8wks 4 days.
I was really nervous about the medication, the procedure and also what I might see.

It was no where near as bad as I’d anticipated. The bleeding was fairly bad for a couple of days but nothing that made me feel I needed medical assistance. I took a combo of paracetamol and nurofen with codeine, which kept the pain at bay.

Happy to pm you if you’d like to chat x

Thank you everyone. @ironytheoppositeofwrinkly sorry to hear of your loss. @blondie678 and @sunandrose, I really appreciate you sharing your experiences with me. I may take up the offer to PM in a few days if that’s ok. I’m 7weeks 2 days just now, going to take the weekend to think about my decision so will be 8 weeks when I go ahead. Thank you everyone so much x

I had one at 9 weeks.
Emotionally it was hard because I did want another baby but wasn't in the best position to support it.

First appointment was a consultation and a scan. I sobbed through the scan and didn't look at the screen.

I was then given the first pill to end the pregnancy. Home over the weekend. Very little pain, no more than achy period pain.

After the weekend second appointment. Second pill to bring on labour and I had a painkiller suppository put up my bottom.

Was sent to a day room to just wait. It was hard to just sit and wait. I was there for about 4 hours when I felt a small gush in my leggings which was my waters breaking. I went and sat on the toilet with a bowl in the toilet to catch the foetus. After I'd passed the foetus, and I knew I had. You just know. I put a paper towel over the bowl without looking and called the nurse. She took the bowl and came back a few minutes later to confirm it was the foetus.

I was then sent home with painkillers. I wasn't really in pain. Just struggled emotionally.

I hope you're ok op. Xx

Hi, sorry to have to post on someone else’s post, I’m struggling to figure out how to find/add a new post. Thanks for sharing your experience and hope you are doing ok now?
I am 34 with 2 children 9,6. I wouldn’t say my relationship with their dad is great, and affection/sex is limited however he was planning a vaesectomy prior to covid.
11 days ago he showed me some affection and tried to get intimate, it was ok at first but when he started pushing against me, I said no-he carried on and quickly entered me (without a condom) I pulled away and walked out of the bedroom, making him aware I was upset at what he had done. He didn’t ejaculate as literally entered me and I pulled away. I took the morning after pill as I was so worried (my periods are mostly 3 weekly). 11 days later, I was due on my period yesterday-I have felt a dull ache in my side for over a week, sore boobs, fatigue and now nausea. I’m pretty sure I am pregnant but can’t bear to do a test and see the result as not sure how I will keep it together for my children over xmas. I’m ashamed to say I have had a termination before (just 2 years ago) after contraception failed-I struggled emotionally afterwards but at the time it felt like the right thing to do (massive childcare costs and had just been offered a new job). I felt alone at that time and he avoided me, making it feel like the pregnancy choice was all on me. Now I’m here again and yet again he is leaving me to deal with this alone (he’s not come to bed and I’m guessing he’s asleep downstairs), financially it would be manageable as new job means no childcare costs for elder two but my worries are my mental health and how a baby would impact that and my other 2, I’m also questioning our relationship. Please be kind-I’m restricted with what contraception I can take, he was planning a vaesectomy prior to covid and our relationship was breaking down recently-I had no intention of having sex with him without a condom and feel so confused and upset at what’s happened.

Hey I'm wondering if anyone is still on here currently 7.5 weeks pregnant and have got the abortion pack to do it at home feel so scared to do it at home my other half doesn't want another child as we have a 15 month old and I caught the first time while changing my pill. . so anxious I have stressed over the pain and what's to come with having an abortion I have taken the weekend to think and it's working me up more. I feel like I understand the time isn't right as it's soon and he isn't so supportive right now but I have read so many horror stories

Hey have you gone ahead with it? I'm 4/5 weeks pregnant and considering it myself. Absolutely terrified. Main reason I don't want to go ahead is bcos I have a 4 month old baby 😢😢

@EventsSwansea1 @Moll17

I went through the medical process last Saturday, if anyone you want to private message me with any questions I’d be more than happy to try and help.

@Lala2510 no judgement at all - but what he did was completely wrong, and I’m not sure how you could move past that, you must be feeling all sorts. Sending much love. It may be daunting to test, but the sooner you are sure that you are you can start to figure out the route you want to take.

Yes I'd really like to chat if poss. Not sure how to private msg? I hope you are OK xx

@YnysMon20

Hey @Moll17 I have private messaged you! If it doesn’t work just pop questions here. X

@YnysMon20 can I ask how many weeks you were? I have a phone consultation but it's over a week away, then will have to wait for the pills to arrive. I'm concerned as I'll be close to 10 weeks by that time.

@maloofhoof I was 7w5 days - I found out at 5 weeks but due to Christmas couldn’t get the consultation appointment until the 6th January which took me to 7 weeks, consultation on Wednesday and pills arrived on Friday and started the process that evening. Xx

@YnysMon20 thank you. As long as the pills arrive 2 days after I think I'll be ok. Just worried as Royal Mail is so delayed at the moment. Just want it over with.

I know - I was the same. They send them 24 hours tracked so ideally should come in 24 hours but mine was stuck at the depot for a day.

Definitely take the codeine and ibuprofen an hour before the second lots of tablets, it’s better to prevent the pain then start taking them when it starts. I also made sure I went to the loo every half hour.

Anything else I can help with let me know. All the best x

Hi. Had a medical abortion 4 weeks ago and still bleeding. Yesterday, I pass down clots. Is it normal? How long should I bleed? Does anyone here experienced the same?? I am so worried

@gin13, how are you doing today? Please don't be worried. From my experience, and am not a medic, passing clots is fine. At 4 weeks gestation hopefully you won't see the foetus. Just don't look down the toilet. Seriously. Don't mean to scare you but I wish somebody had told me that when I had mine at over 8 weeks gestation.

How's the pain? The heavy to medium bleeding lasted two weeks in my case but am still bleeding a little on and off. Now six weeks after abortion.

@AnnaliseH The pain was tolerable. I only experienced it few hours after the Misoprostol. I was really worried about my bleeding pattern. I have been bleeding for 5 weeks now and still passing down clots, not too big tho. So it is still normal?? I passed down clots right after Misoprostol then had just regular bleeding but today I passed down clots again. I was 7 weeks pregnant when I had medical abortion

@gin13, oops, sorry I mis-read your original message! My bad. Sorry again.

So in this case our situations are quite similar then. I am still bleeding too and I had my termination six weeks ago. It's just so strange this bleeding, isn't it? Have clots but looks like normal period now. It went from two weeks of heavy bleeding to a halt then on/off bleeding and then this, which I think is an odd sort of period. I have heard at under 10 weeks gestation it can take two months for your body to recover. But! If you are in pain or have any other reason to suspect something's not right, contact a medic.

@AnnaliseH Thank you for your replies. At least I know now that it is normal and I should not be worried. I hope we both recover soon! Take care always!

@AnnaliseH how do we know though if we are having our period already?