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Child custody rights from substance abuse?

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Dee96 · 23/04/2020 20:51

This must be my hundredth thread on here. I'm having a very hard time deciding between going forward with a termination I have booked in next week or not. I'm going to speak to someone professional next week. My biggest concern right now which factors big time into my decision is my parents legal rights to our child. He has struggled with drug addictions for a long time and its affected our relationship so negatively. Give him his due he has calmed down' so he says, but honestly I cant trust his word. I've only just found out hes been taking edibles during the lockdown, he cant stay completely clean for even a couple of weeks. I confronted him about this and he denied taking them till just now. Clearly, I cant trust his word. This makes me completely uneasy. How can I trust him around a baby? During the first couple of months of us dating he would get himself into such a state the night before that we couldnt go on our dates that we planned, and I'd end up having to take care of him. It's got in the way of him holding down a job as he cut the drug intake he went onto alcohol and couldnt get up to go to work the next day without throwing up. Now I'm so worried and the last thing I want is this constant stress of having to be concerned about my child being in his care. He wants to be involved so it's not like I can push him out of it. I dont want his behaviour to mentally damage our child either. What are my rights here if any? I cant afford a solicitor right now. Is there anyone I can talk to about this. I just want to know if I proceed with this pregnancy I can protect this child.

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Dee96 · 23/04/2020 20:52

*sorry I meant partners legal right not parents that's a typo

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CloudyVanilla · 24/04/2020 03:17

Hiya, if you don't put him on the birth certificate then he would have to go through quite a long process to get parental rights granted, including proving he is the biological father. Sadly lots of men may kick up a stink while you are pregnant and threaten you with action, but when it comes down to it don't go through with it.

You can also document any issues you have with him just in case. You do have lots of avenues to protect your child, good luck Flowers

Thepigeonsarecoming · 24/04/2020 03:22

If it’s your hundredth thread here surely you already know the answer. If you want the child have it, if you don’t then have a termination. Don’t rely on a man to influence this. It’s your decision

Deal with contact issues when he/she arrives

Dee96 · 25/04/2020 18:51

@Thepigeonsarecoming if it only it were that sime to bring a child into the world!

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Dee96 · 25/04/2020 18:52

*simple

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