Abortion. I don't know what to do.

[Preginneed]

Hi

I new here and looking for advice.

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant within the first couple of months I believe. My OH and I have said in the past that if it ever happened we'd follow it through although it's not planned. I still feel like that, however my OH agreed when we first found out because I said that I would not consider an abortion, now due to his ever declining mental health (which comes from other conditions) and his finances he has now said that he definitely cannot have a baby yet. I said that I would raise the baby on my own if he couldn't, something I now regret as I really am not in a position to do it.

Basically he has now moved out and is certain that he cannot raise a child, he is saying that he doesn't want to be the cause or blame of me aborting the baby so has left the decision to me, although he will support me if I do decide to go through with it.

I really want to make things work with him (we did argue quite badly before he left so there are some other thorns to try and get through) and help him along the way with his conditions but that would mean aborting the baby which I don't want to do and I feel like it could affect me quite badly on the other hand I'm not really in a position to raise a baby myself but am still considering life as a single parent.

I'm so confused, every time I think I have made a decision a few hours later my head is in a different place, I have cried more than I have in my life and I don't have much time to decide, I have some support around me but I have never felt so alone and lost.

I hope that makes sense.

Sorry you in this position OP

Ultimately it is your decision to make he cannot force you either way, but as he’s said he doesn’t want the baby you have to consider the position from doing this alone. How old are you? Do you have family that could help support you right now? Why do you feel you don’t be able to cope alone?

Thank you for your reply.

I'm 26 he's a few years younger. My parents are a good support but there's is not really alot that they can do. I thought I would be able to cope alone but in reality I really am not in a great place in my life. we've spoken since I posted and are going to go through with an abortion I think and try and make things work between us. it's just such a horrible situation.

@Preginneed The most likely outcome is that you go through with the abortion and you still split up. Do not have the abortion thinking it will save your relationship. Your relationship was already not good.

Make sure you make the decision based on what you think is best. Take him completely out of it as he most likely wont be relevant anyway