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Really need some advice

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Sjc2k31 · 01/04/2020 00:09

So, I’m 13 wks 5 days,
I’m a mom of 3 ages 1,5,10, I have a frontline full-time job my partner also works a frontline job,

We have recently found out I’m pregnant currently 13 wks 5 days...

I had my scan today saw the little one and it broke my heart can I do this... can I put the other children through this again... will we be okay etc...

When I found out I was pregnant I booked two abortions both times I never made it out of the car my other half said if I go threw with it I’ve made that choice... so I didn’t but I can’t help but feel my whole world will stop again... I know it’s not about holidays fancy cars clothes etc but I can’t help but feel guilt for my other children 2 from previous relationship and my youngest with my current partner...

I’ve forgot to mention my partner has a little girl from previous who we have once a week over night and every other weekend Friday-Monday of whom we gained access via court order as when we announced our little one we was stopped from seeing his little girl- heartbreaking

So anyway Today I spoke to his mom... and she has done nothing but fill me of guilt regarding how his little one is going to feel as she’s like well she’ll be leaving your home to go back to her mom thinking of you all together etc... I am lay here wide awake thinking what am I doing... I should of gone through with my termination to stop all headache all around...

We said one more but so soon? I haven’t a clue but time isn’t on my side... is this selfish of me to even consider this at 13+5 weeks?

Please say your views

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whatacrazytime · 01/04/2020 00:15

Please don't beat yourself up over his little girl going back to her mum thinking of you all together as long as you include her as much as you can while she's there she will feel loved and included. I think if you are going to have another one just have this one now. There is no right time to have a baby. When this baby comes along you won't imagine life without it. Once you have made your decision don't let his mum comment on it again it's not her life or her choice.

Runkle · 01/04/2020 00:31

Not selfish at all. You have options and you're right to consider them all carefully. No one should judge you for whatever you do.

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