Anyone struggling getting over their decision to terminate?

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I had an abortion 2 months ago. I’m struggling to come to terms with what I’ve done.. whenever I see a pregnant woman/any mention of babies or children I think about what I’ve done. Every hour of every day I think about what’s happened 🙁 will I always feel this way.. 😢

Sorry dunno what happened there!! All i can say is YES!!! Mine was just under three months ago & my life as i knew it before is no longer, I have been to my darkest days since the abortion & am having weekly counselling as I just cannot deal with the huge negative impact its had on my life, do you have any support??? Were you unsure about terminating before you did?? They most women feel relief after one but i have never felt that sadly, i know this isn’t positive but just to say ur not alone 😓😓xx

I’ve got my fiancé and I think he’s being supportive in his own way but I feel like he’s just forgotten about it all. He was amazing when it was all happening initially. Tried to talk to him tonight but he just said that we can’t turn back the time and it’s done now... 😕 tbh I don’t think i thought my decision through enough I rushed into it. It was only a week from the day I found out to the day I had the abortion. It was a contraception fail and we just thought we weren’t ready for a baby.. wedding date would have been a month before the baby was due.. and I wanted to be closer to my family for support as I’m an hour away currently. All my reasons sound so so selfish and trivial.
How do you find the counselling is it helping? I just cant stop thinking about what I’ve done and thinking about how many weeks pregnant I’d be now. Hope you’re okay xx

I think the problem is that If you could see into a crystal ball & realise what you would be like post abortion it would be completely different situation but by then its too late at least thats how I feel , everything is rushed so that the pregnancy doesn’t progress but then your left with all the answers afterwards 😓, I had no support from husband whatsoever but from speaking to others it does seem men can definitely turn off any emotion to it & would never understand that physical feeling of pregnancy & how huge it feels to end it!! Which company did you have the termination with?? The counselling is going well im paying privately and she specialises in trauma so I look forward to going as i can totally offload & she gets me to think of things ive said in ways a friend wouldn’t etc, are you having feelings of regret now?? Xx

Sorry meant questions not answers!

I am 6 years on now. It took me a solid year of specific counselling to unravel a lot of stuff. I still get sad, I still have regrets (I was forced into a termination) but I am.. ok. I think that's the best way to describe it
I took about 4 months off work which might sound extreme but was really, really struggling

It’s been just over 2 years since I had mine.

My pain has become easier to cope with and I can enjoy things in life again, but it has had a lasting effect on my mental health. I’m definitely not the person I was before.
I can just put my feelings in a little box and get on with it, although the lasting affects such as feeling anxious a lot are still there.

BUT, life isn’t completely dark anymore! Don’t lose hope

I’m 21 years on from having a termination due to abnormalities,... it still makes me cry, the memory of this period of my life is still so raw, I would hope there is more support and understanding now, than there was 21 years ago.