Desperate for Advice Has anyone terminated because of Husband/partner

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Hi due to alot of people having similar situations on here as me but only difference is they said HB/partner would support them I recently had an abortion for what would have been my 4th Baby as my husband absolutely did not want it & did not support me , had he acted differently I would be still be pregnant now

Im now trying to live with that decision & am starting counselling as its affect me badly more than I cld have imagined 😓😓

Has anyone come through the other side and been able to forgive their partners & if so how did you manage to do that & was it a long road ???? Thanks

Anyone????

Hi OP, sorry you're feeling like this. I was pregnant with a new boyfriend last year. He put a lot of pressure on me to end the pregnancy, which I did, i didn't feel i could cope alone. We stopped seeing each other soon after.

Similar to you, I wanted to keep the pregnancy. I feel I have suffered a lot since the abortion. I found counselling helped a bit, especially when I was really emotional in the weeks following termination. It's been about 8 months now and sometimes I'm ok, I still hold down my job, single mum to existing kids as well. However I feel a lot of grief, I'm quite depressed I think but I haven't found anything helpful, the few people I've tried to discuss with haven't understood. How long since your termination?

Hi @TabbyCatPaws Thanks for replying! Oh bless you I totally am in that with you 😓, its very depressing im currently having counselling which im paying for privately think its going to cost a bomb by the time im finished as feel like its so complex!!!

Mine was in November so still raw but can’t imagine ever being ok with it, did u say u we’re having counselling aswell? How many weeks were u when u had the abortion? I was 9 weeks & it feels even worse to me than maybe being 5 or 6 because I wasn’t that far off the scan 🙈, everyone is pregnant at work & also my sister who was 3 weeks behind so it’s making everything more difficult

Just don’t get how men can be so awful about it, ultimately it should be the woman’s decision but you are so hormonal etc I don’t think we can think straight if there is pressure especially!! How old are ur other kids? Knowing I won’t have anymore is awful aswell as leave my pregnant days with this awful reminder, hope ur ok xx