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[Samk79]

Hi everyone
I'm 40 and have just had a faint positive. Can't believe I'm writing in here. I have two older children from a previous marriage. Myself and my now husband started ttc 18 months ago. I fell pg last jan but it ended in mc which I needed surgery for

Since then we haven't been actively ttc but haven't been taking precautions either. I was just starting to get my head round the f sac t of not having any more and thinking we would be financially secure etc.

Now I'm terrified about starting again especially at my age with the added risks etc. I really struggled emotionally after my loss and really don't know what to do

Hi, well first of all congratulations. If I were you I’d go with it, see what comes of it. Particularly as you have been ttc. Sorry for your loss, I can imagine this has been an emotional struggle but if you terminated this pregnancy would you struggle even more? Knowing it could have resulted in a healthy full term baby?
It might be the best thing that ever happened to you (apart from your other kids of course).
Perhaps you could say, right, this is it my final pregnancy. Whatever happens, happens. But afterwards I will definitely go on contraception.
Best wishes x

@Mollie3 thank you for your reply. I think you are right. I'm not sure I could go through with a termination. I feel selfish for wanting another one and feel that we should ha stopped trying after my loss last year. I was devestated after it though and really struggled to come to terms with it x

Your not selfish! But actually very brave, after what you’ve been through, to leave the possibility of conception open. This baby will be the sibling of the baby you lost, so think of it as a gift from them, at least that’s what I’d do I think.
Your little angel you lost will always be in your heart, no one can take that away from you.
There is every chance that this will be a healthy full-term pregnancy x

@Mollie3 thank you. Guess it doesn't help t y my emotions are all over the place. I'm worrying that I'm too old and that we will have no money etc x

You might be older than the average mum of a newborn and have less money than you would otherwise have had. If your baby is more important to you than these things then you’ll be an amazing mummy xx