I’ve just found out that I’m pregnant

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I’ve just found out 2 days ago that I am pregnant. I’ve been on the pill for just under 2 years and I have never fell pregnant before. I’m really hoping for some advice because I have no one to talk to who isn’t going to force me into a certain decision.
I’m 18 years old currently in university. I’ve had a rocky past 6 months, between breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years and experiencing a really nasty car crash. After all of this I made the decision to sleep with someone very close to me and my family. I’m much to petrified to tell him, I don’t want to tell my family because I know they will tell me that I have no choice but to terminate my pregnancy and I don’t want to be forced into it, it’s a big decision and I want to know that it came from me. I have to consider the fact that I might have to do this primarily on my own, can I really be a mother? I know that I would be an amazing mother, I understand that it is going to be really hard. It’s just just a massive decision to be thrown into. Please share your thoughts! Thank you so much in advance.

Only you can make this decision, and luckily you have time to think it through. I suggest you don't tell anyone for now, even the father. You don't need anyone else's opinion to get in your way.

You need to look at this from all angles. Can you afford this baby? Where will you live? Would your parents want a baby living in their home? Who could support you? Don't assume your family will be willing to provide childcare, because that's not fair on them. What about your education? Your future will be massively affected if you don't earn a degree. You have a lot of thinking to do.

It's very early days I assume OP so you have time on your side. I think it's better that you haven't told anyone so that you can make this decision on your own and what is best for you.

Take some time and think it through. Once you've come to a decision, do what you need to do and don't look back. If you decide to keep the baby, thicken your skin and keep reminding yourself that you chose this and it's what you want and that everyone will come around to the idea. If you decide to terminate, do it without guilt. Hard I know but in life, we have to make decisions and as long as they are what we want and what is for the best, they aren't the wrong one's

I agree with PP. You have time to really think hard about all options.

Please also read up or ideally see a GP at terminations at pre and post 11/12 weeks. By 11 weeks it might be a harder route to abort as its normally more surgical at that point, but a said before you have time.

You must be at least four weeks now? Your as many weeks PG as your last period so unless your 100% sure, think about a dating scan. You can go private from about £65 or again ask the gp but they only do dating scans from six weeks.

Take folic acid and all supplements asap as well. You have a lot to think about. Your body, your life, your choice

Hi op. No one can tell you what to do. But think about you and you only. Do you want to have a child now? Are you happy to do it on your own? Can you do it without relying on anyone else? Can you afford it? If so, go for it. If not, have a termination and look forward to a life you can hopefully plan towards a child when the time is right for you. I had a termination at 17 and don't regret it for a second - in fact I'm relieved I did it. Two decades later I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant again and decided on another termination. The decisions weren't so much about age - they were about other things. Neither time I wanted a child with the man I got pregnant by, and I didn't feel financially or emotionally able to sustain parenthood nor in good enough a mental place. These are all good reasons to have an abortion. Having said that there is never a perfect time to have a child, but some times are better than others. Just please know that for every women worried they'll regret their decision, there are thousands of us very happy with our choice. Best of luck