Pregnant after nearly 7 months dating

[Annaaa88]

I’m 31, full-time stable job with promising career opportunities. He’s 28, still a uni student and still living with his dad, without a fixed income.

We’ve been seeing each other for 7 months, without committing, although we spend time together and only date one another.

I have recently found out I’m pregnant and this has been a huge shock for me. I don’t know how to tell him. I have mixed feelings. I’m happy to be pregnant with him, but at the same time scared because of his unstable situation. What if he finds a job away from home once he graduates? But most importantly, I don’t think he’s mature enough to become a parent and act as a parent.

I don’t know what to do... I don’t know if I want to keep it at this point... Has anyone of you experienced something like this?

Hi @Annaaa88, we're moving this thread over to our Pregnancy Choices topic. Hopefully some Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support.

I can say from experience that once the baby is here, you will always find a way to cope and adapt to it. I was a single mum to 3 kids when I met someone and fell pregnant within 8 weeks. Luckily it worked out for me and we ended up married but I know that I would have kept the baby anyway and been a strong parent. Your situation would not have made me consider an abortion.
If having the baby is something you're considering, then don't do anything you could regret. There's always a way round everything and you could make it work if that's what you want.

I ended up pregnant after 5 months
It’s been a bit of a bumpy ride but we’re still together things things are going well
I know people who were together years before a baby and the relationship collapsed after the baby arrived. There’s no telling until the baby arrives