Please help I don’t know what to do.....

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Hi, I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd child, planned sort of but a bit of a Shock. Originally I was happy and decided to tell immediate friends and family at 6 weeks...I then started to get severe sickness which lasts all day and night and has done for a number of weeks now. I am now 8 weeks and can no longer deal with the sickness! I’ve been prescribed different anti sickness which don’t seem to make a difference! I can’t work, look after my daughter (3yrs) or focus on daily household tasks! It has got to a point where I’ve started thinking all sorts...another child, added pressures, making our house even smaller then it already feels, doing it all again, etc...I cannot go on feeling like this and being bed ridden and have therefore booked a consultation with Marie stopes for a termination...problem is I’ve told people....what do I do? What do I say??????? I want to do this- my partner is supportive of my decision as he can see what I’m going through but what will we tell people????????

Help!!!!

I had awful pregnancy sickness and it really does make you feel lowest of the low and so depressed. I remember being sat in my bath having a complete breakdown as I didn't think I could go on. But believe me when I say, there are good meds you just need to find the ones that work for you! I would caution you to make sure you are 100% in your decision to terminate and it's not the depression and low feelings you are dealing with at the moment due to the sickness clouding your judgement as they will eventually pass with the right help. I'm just concerned as you said this was a planned pregnancy of sorts so your initial circumstances are different and I would worry once the sickness is gone you may struggle with the decision. Thinking of you xx

So many people wish for a baby. I think maybe taking a step back and trying to see the bigger picture might help,

Surely also go to the gp for more help with the sickness. Explain how it's making you feel.

When you didn't feel sick, you were happy to have the baby and told people. You aren't going to feel sick forever and you should try to see beyond that. Termination is no picnic and you could feel very bad afterwards. And it is forever.

If you think you will ever want another baby then maybe stick this out as you've got this far?

Hi everyone, I did read all your lovely comments and reflected lots, as well as vomited lots! I ended up going on a drip and been given some medication which appears to be going well! My head feels like it’s in a better place, a place where I can think straight! I’ve decided to continue with the pregnancy- not 100% but getting there slowly! I’ve also been referred to mother and infant mental health service...and a course that my local hospital provides called PRANX for mother’s with anxiety etc. My partner and I sat down and spoke once my head was in a better place and my mother came to stay with me...I’ve decided this is our last child and who has ever regretted having a baby?????? But there are lots of people who have regretted aborting a baby!

So just a check in/ update and I am hoping that the sickness stays at bay and I slowly get better!