I don't want to be pregnant!

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NC as I don't want anyone to recognise me, I'm sorry if this is upsetting for anyone.

Yesterday, I took two pregnancy tests. Both showed a faint positive result. I'm devastated. DH and I have one DC already and do eventually want another but the timing couldn't be worse.

I had a termination 18 months ago due to contraception failure, changed contraception and now it's failed and I'm pregnant again. I know no contraception is 100%.

We can't afford another child, we're in so much debt. I've only just qualified in my profession and not secured a job in it yet, instead in working part time in a minimum wage job whilst applying for the job I want. No one will employ a pregnant person! It's hard because all the jobs here are temporary.

Sorry this is all a ramble, I just needed to write it down. I want this baby but not right now. If I continue with this pregnancy, it's likely I won't get into the profession I have been working for years to be in Does that make me selfish? DH is so supportive regardless of my decision.

OP - this thread might be better off in Pregnancy choices rather than the viper pit of AIBU?

Was coming on here to say exactly that.

Also would suggest pregnancy forum OP.

You're probably right! I was just hoping for some traffic. Thanks.

It can be a selfish choice to have a termination, just like it can be a selfish choice to have a baby. Whatever you do, someone somewhere will call you selfish, so other people's opinions mean shit here.

There are worse things in life than to be selfish, and being a parent to a child you don't want is probably one of them. Think hard over the next few days what you want to do next; if having a termination and trying for another baby in a few years once you've got the career you want/need is the right choice, book a termination and don't beat yourself up over this.

OP, you need a handhold at this point, not a kicking. Do what's right for you and be nice to yourself. And speak to the GP about the contraception failures.

Go to the pregnant board. But ultimately it’s your decision, you have to carry the baby, give birth, bring a baby up, finance a baby, if you can’t manage it right now, then you can’t. Don’t feel guilty.

Your husband is supportive of whatever decision you make, that's ultimately the only other persons opinion that you should listen to.

You've got to do what is best for your family, that includes what is also best for you.

I was just hoping for some traffic

There's traffic and there's traffic OP.

Obviously with having experience of terminating a pregnancy you know how this will likely affect you and if it is going to make more sense than going through with the pregnancy at this stage. It's early days, discuss it with DH and move forwards together but ultimately it is your body and your choice.

We've moved this for OP to Pregnancy Choices.