When is the right time?

[pippapants]

Hello,

I'm not sure where to post this, but here it goes.

I want to have a baby. I've wanted to have a baby for a long time now. My partner and I have been together for 2 years. We've talked about getting married, having babies, how we'd raise them, all the details.

We live together, and have a pretty solid relationship. He works full time. And here's the troublesome part; I'm a student.
Deciding to go back to university at the grand old age of 29 (I'm now 31 and studying for a masters degree) has been fantastic, but he wants to wait to have children until I have a job and we're more financially stable. Realistically, this is at least another 3 years away, if not more.

What do I do? I don't want to wait until I'm almost 35 to start trying (I have very irregular cycles and I've been tracking my ovulation with no good signs of anything actually happening).

Everyone says "there's never a right time" and "you'll work around it", but he seems to think one day we'll just wake up, the stars will align and it'll be time... 

He's a man. Lots of them are like this. This like things under control. They like to make watertight choices. They're naturally scared of the foggy unknown huge responsibility of having a child. Possibly also scared about you being pregnant and going through childbirth.

I think it's already the right time for you, from what you say.

Of course ideally he'd be on board as well. Many men aren't but then change their minds when they hold the baby in their arms!

Hi,
I have had similar problem with my partner we've been together for 9years, I wanted a baby for a very long time and he wasn't sure is the right time. A few months ago I challenged him to have a conversation about the subject and explained the "right time" will never come and I am 30 so my biological clock is ticking, after a few days of thinking he made up his mind and I am 4 months pregnant now. About the financial side there is plenty of help available if you look up, make some research about what you can get and show him that might help him to rethink " the right" time.
Hope he will change his mind, wish you luck in convincing him, don't give up .