Pregnant with 5 month old

[Starrygirl12]

Hi

Not sure really why I'm posting other than I'm so anxious. Just had my first baby 5 months ago who was wanted for ages.

I have been ebf and stupidly thought this was enough. Now I've discovered I'm pregnant again and I feel so guilty I don't feel happier about this after everything.

I'm shocked and confused. I know I won't do anything with the baby but o am still so anxious to tell people, wondering how I'll cope.

Not sure why I'm even posting this but just wanted to get it out.

I understand. My two are 13 months apart -DD first, then DS. I was hugely shocked when I found out about the second pregnancy and a bit embarrassed when the stupid rabbit jokes started. It worked out though. My two grew up in a close relationship and, after 40 years, they are still close.

The problem I had was most people somehow thought they were twins. Then I met a lady in a store who looked at my two and said 13 or 14 months apart? I asked her how she knew and she told me she had four children who were 14 months apart each. She said, even though it was hard work for many years, she wouldn't have it any other way because everybody was close and happy. I knew then my two would be OK and, I imagine, so will yours.

Found out I was expecting No.2 when No.1 was 6 months old, so 14 months apart.

Some days are tough and a toddler and a baby is hardcore, but it's getting easier and I'm so glad it's ended up this way for DH and I.

Good luck!

@Starrygirl12 just wondering what you did OP, my daughters 4 and a half months and I can see faint lines on tests. Feel so stupid and shit. I've also had 2 miscarriages one very traumatic at 14 weeks which makes my choices harder. Shit.

Thank you.

I have just seen the replies now this makes me feel so much better.

I have gradually came round to the idea and have my 12 week scan on Thursday.

I'm lucky I have such a supportive family and husband. We have told our mums and dads so far and my sister and they have all taken it better than expected. My in laws have said they will help with childcare when I return to work so it's just about taking it a step at a time really.

The most important thing to me is my dd is happy and I enjoy her and don't miss anything meanwhile this baby I'm
Pregnant with is healthy 😊

I've heard so many good things about having them close in ages.

Thanks for the replies x

@Ihaveabigproblem I understand completely the shock at first is crazy and then the unknowing of how you will cope, what will it mean.

The best thing you can do though whatever you choose is to take it a step back, don't panic over everything and give yourself time to get your head around it. Talk to people you can talk to and get used to the idea before you make any decisions.

I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. Whatever you decide will be the best option for you but there is no rush to weigh up what is best for you.

We are having our baby - I knew I wouldn't be doing anything but that but it does make it so hard when you have that Initial shock and when you still have a young lo.

Give yourself time, take it easy and enjoy your lo.

If you need to talk feel free to message me x

Thankyou I've already decided if I am theres no way I'll be terminating. We will of made the baby and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if i terminated. We will struggle big time as I'll have to pay half of my current maternity leave back and not be entitled to more. I'll see if I am for defo and then ring and see if I'm entitled to anything. Glad all worked out for you xx