I need a handhold 😢

[Goodnightjude1]

I had a termination 2 months ago. We decided it was for the best but I wasn’t mentally prepared. I went on my own as OH had to work. Every time I close my eyes I can still see it. I was 10 weeks and didn’t realise how ‘baby like’ it would look. It’s breakig my heart but OH won’t talk about it. I don’t know whether it’s because it’ll upset him or because he doesn’t care...thinks I’m being overly emotional.
I thought after 2 months I’d be over it by now 😢

Hi OP I'm so sorry you're suffering like this have you had some counselling? I think 2 months is a short time to 'get over' something like this. You're not the first person who's said their partner doesnt understand...and I found the same. Mine seemed to ask about physical pain etc at the time, but once the bleeding stopped it was long over for him.

I had my abortion about a month ago and still feel in a mess. I find work and routine helps, but I cry easily and counselling hasn't really helped. I found passing the 'pregnancy tissue' really traumatic too - I was less weeks than you but was very aware, especially due to the physical pain and seeing it.

I dont have any solutions, I'm really sorry. Wanted you to know that you're not alone though

Thankyou xx

Hi OP,

I had my abortion on the 3rd April, and I am still not over it, I was 9 weeks and again the thought of how baby like it was hurts me a great deal.
I was not mentally prepared for it and wish with all my heart I could go back in time and change my mind. I am having counselling for it and I am now on antidepressants because I tried to commit suicide 3 weeks ago.

You are not alone In feeling the way you do and if you would like to talk feel free to Pm me.

2 months is still such early days OP. I was depressed for a very long time after my termination but time is such a great healer. You will get there just allow yourself to feel however you feel and take one day at a time. Hugs to you