Feeling regretful.. do I want to TTC?

[Inferiorbeing]

Hi all,

I need some advice.
I had a medical termination 3 weeks ago and now massively regret it.. the reasons no longer feel valid and I desperately miss the pregnancy. My DH has been so supportive but revealed last night he is regretful too. We are considered TTC now for a month (if we go over a month I will be 8 or 9 months pregnant on our wedding day which we both wanted to avoid) and if it happens it happens if not then we will try after the wedding.

Is this a sensible move? I'm terrified we are doing it just to replace what it feels like we lost.. I think we were both just terrified at the time and may have reacted too quickly..

Hey! A wedding can be a very stressful time especially the month or two before the big day! Try and imagine having that stress and being very pregnant ! Swollen no doubt and very tired !!
I would say why put pressure on yourself ?! Enjoy these few months planning the wedding and coming to terms with your recent loss.
My husband and I recently had a miscarriage and we both wanted so badly to try again and wanted so badly a little baby!. But we decided to take a few months off of even thinking about TTC again. We let our hearts heal and had a very fun Christmas and holiday in may! and then we knew we where ready!! and now we are 4 weeks pregnant! I would say get all the big things out the way and give yourselves time. it is also a very bad idea to TTC at stressful times as it's a big factor of miscarriage. Speaking first hand and lost two babies last year ❤️

I’d wait til after the wedding to be honest.

This is quite a common reaction, but I think wait until after your wedding now. You’ll enjoy it a lot more without a tiny baby, you can start TTC on your honeymoon.

I wouldn't wait, it will just hang over you.

Definitely go for it, it sounds like you and your dp are in the right place now. And remember that your pregnancy could have ended in a miscarriage at that early stage, so please don't let guilt overwhelm you. Go forwards feeling positive not regretful.

Thank you all so much! It's so helpful to get opinions, I think waiting until after the wedding is the most logical, it feels so far away but I know it isn't really..

I also just noticed I put DH not DP! Not that it matters but just in case anyone was thrown off by the wedding stuff

He will soon be DH so who cares ! 😻
Honestly the wedding will zoom by and then you will be in happy wedded bliss and you can look forward with happy stress free hearts 💕

My concern is that the "valid" reasons you had 3 weeks ago you now say are resolved?? Did you have counselling etc before your decision?
To start ttc again so quickly does sound like you are trying to replace the pregnancy - sorry if that sounds harsh

I would wait a little longer - get the wedding out of the way