Aborting due to financial reasons and heartbroken.

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Have two LO's aged four and one already. Found out I'm pregnant, I think about 5 weeks. Me and DP both agree now is not the time for a baby but are both pretty heartbroken about it.

We only have two bedroom house, The kids are happy and settled, we've just started being financially stable (sort of)

it's just not the right time and I know that's the hard truth.

Still really really sad about it.

Handhold please.

Here is my hand to hold, now and afterwards.
If you changed your mind, that would be fine.
If you don't change your mind, that's fine, too.
You know what is best for you.

Handhold. You’ve made the choice that is right for you, your family & your circumstances. That doesn’t make it an easy one though

Handhold and a hug. That is so hard. Extra cuddles for the children you do have. So sorry

A friend had the baby in the room with her and her dh for two years, and then she put all three children in one bedroom. They were perfectly happy for about 5 years (the kids I mean) and protested when she tried to rejig the sleeping arrangements (using a bit of downstairs to make extra sleeping area) I know another family who lived in a housing association flat with three children in a two bedder, again they never regretted the third.

The one year old will find it easy to accept a sibling. Disclaimer I have twins and an older child and that often colours my opinions about two versus three when there isn't a "choice". three is hard yes, but you never would regret the third. I often used to wish I had just two, as twins were so hard, but then I would think, which one to send back...??