Pregnant and really upset

[Littlemermaid1]

Today I found out I'm four weeks pregnant. I have two dc with my exh, age 7 and 4. Exh and I parent well together, both working and happy.

I've been dating and started seeing a man about six weeks ago. We have slept together just once, used condoms but now I'm pregnant. I haven't told him yet, I can tell him tomorrow evening...though I have to assume he wouldn't be involved when deciding whether to keep or terminate the pregnancy.

I've already booked a termination for two weeks time (earliest they could do, I need to be six weeks). But I feel so upset, guilty, pretty distraught really. I wish I knew him better, lived without a mortgage, anything that would make keeping it a better option. I could just about afford it, I'm nearly 40, never thought this would happen bit I guess no one plans it this way.

Anyone got any advice?

No advice really, just a hand hold. . These things happen. There is nothing to feel guilty about.
So tell your man, see how he reacts. And then follow your instincts. Which is what you are already doing.

Don’t make any decision unless you are 100 percent sure. I personally would cancel the termination and think about things a bit more. You still have a lot of time to make a decision.

Thanks. So I told him and he was very nice about it, we had a long chat and he wants to abort 🙁 I know that's probably the most sensible option but I'm really struggling with the situation, I cant stop crying.

I realise that I was hoping there was a tiny chance he would suggest we keep it and he would support my choice to keep it, be there etc, maybe he will change his mind?

Decide what you want - don't make your decision based on whether or not he'll change his mind.
Do what's right for you but be prepared to do it alone because there's a very good chance that he won't change his mind.

I hope things work out in the way you want them to.

It's 💯 your decision.

It's your body, your choice regardless of his preference.

Good luck with your decision ❤️