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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Littlemissawesome · 06/06/2019 22:31

I am currently 10 weeks pregnant, when I told my partner he said if I don't get rid of it then he is walking away! I went to the clinic, had a scan and was told I was expecting twins! One sadly died at 5 weeks 5 days! What would you do?

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babbi · 06/06/2019 22:34

Whatever you decide to do with your baby ... get rid of him ... heartless loser who will be a drain in your life .
You need a partner who you know will support you through life’s challenges.. he’s shown you he won’t be that person .

Sorry for the baby you lost .. take care of yourself and keep well x

PicpouldePoulet · 06/06/2019 22:35

Get rid of your partner and walk away.

PicpouldePoulet · 06/06/2019 22:35

Sorry for your loss.

darjeelingisrank · 06/06/2019 22:36

I'd get rid of him.

UpsydaisyandIgglePiggleareatit · 06/06/2019 22:38

Sorry for your loss OP.
Agree with PPs regardless of what you do with your pregnancy now... please leave your partner. He isn’t one. He’s awful. Sorry again OP. Really hope you’re ok and have someone who you can talk to and help you. X

PinkHeartLovesCake · 06/06/2019 22:38

No way would I abort a baby for a man!

He could leave you tomorrow and then you’ve aborted your baby, how would you feel?

Any man that loved you would NEVER behave this way. Up your standards, let him leave, keep the baby.......

ChristinaMarlowe · 06/06/2019 22:43

I was told similar (4 years into relationship) "If you have this baby you won't see me for dust" when I was 23. I terminated the pregnancy. Anyway seriously depressed and anorexic, I couldn't cope with the situation. Whether you abort or not your relationship is dead. You'll never forgive him if you end the pregnancy and he'll never change whether you do or not. I'm now 37, married, one DD aged 6 and another DD due in July. I'll never forget that first baby or forgive myself but I'm so glad I'm not tied to that cunt for the rest of my life and that my children have a daddy that loves them unconditionally. Only you know what's right for you but please don't abort your baby to keep this rat - you've already lost him and he wasn't worth keeping.

ozymandiusking · 06/06/2019 22:43

I feel so sorry for you. And for the lost baby. But you could have this one, and have a wonderful life with him or her.
You partner is dispicable, let him go.
You'll be fine. x

VampirateQueen · 06/06/2019 22:46

Let your partner walk and have your baby.

yellowgreenbluepurple · 06/06/2019 22:47

Regardless of if you have your baby or not (and that has to be a choice for you not anyone else) I'd get rid of your partner.

Whatsername7 · 06/06/2019 22:49

You do whatever is right for you. Your partner doesnt sound nice. Does he treat you well in other aspects of your relationship? Having an abortion is your right and nothing to be ashamed of. Do it, if you feel that it is the best thing for you. If not, then have the baby but remember you deserve much better than the way your partner is treating you right now.

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EstherMumsnet · 06/06/2019 22:49

We are moving this thread to the Pregnancy Choices area.

TrixieFranklin · 06/06/2019 23:04

I'd get rid of your partner immediately and then make the right decision for yourself re the baby.

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Littlemissawesome · 07/06/2019 15:29

Um... If I'm honest people have said they don't like him and they don't like the way he speaks to me!

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TrixieFranklin · 07/06/2019 19:26

And do you like the way he speaks to you?

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