What do i do?

[Inferiorbeing]

I need help..

I'm 21 and own a house with my fiance, we've just found out i'm unexpectedly pregnant. I am so unsure about keeping it for a couple of reasons firstly I'm a trainee teacher which means that i haven't actually started my first job yet, I have an offer for september but baby would be due in jan, as i have been a student previously I won't get any maternity pay which means we would have to rely on his wage (doable but very tight..). Secondly, I like my life how it is now with very little to worry about aside from what we want to do and obviously we can't do that with a baby.

I feel bad for considering it as we -could- potentially have this baby and be okay, but i feel too young and selfish to be a good mum. DP things logically we should terminate but will support me either way.

I guess i just need some other opinions..

It's completely up to you. There's nothing selfish about wanting to keep your life the way it is. You didn't ask to be pregnant.

But so consider how you will feel if you do terminate. Make sure you won't regret it.

Ultimately the question you need to ask yourselves is: do you want to be parents right now? Do you want to have a baby and do all the baby stuff? Or do you want to focus on yourselves and your careers?

You're still young - do what's best for you

You have no reason to feel bad. There’s nothing wrong with not being ready and wanting to keep your life as it is for a few years as you build yourselves up.

Have a termination if that is what you decide is best to do.

You should do what you feel is best. I am 22 and recently found out I was pregnant. Felt awful thinking of abortion as all we have ever wanted is a baby. In our positions, having not started our careers or moved out, we decided abortion was the best thing. I don't regret the termination, just feel sad about what the future could have held.

There's nothing wrong with waiting for a few years, and this way you can plan and be more excited and ready for the good news.

Good luck

Im another for it being completely your choice. I would suggest fully weighing up how you would feel in the future if/when you do come to have children. Will you feel guilty for this baby? Will you wander who they would have been, how they would ha e been with any children you do choose to have? Personally, the guilt would probably eat me up but i am a very guilt ridden person, i struggle to let go.
I am 23. I have a 7 month old. Yes i sometimes miss my freedom. Yes, i sometimes run out of patience... but he has enhanced our lives so much more than i ever imagined and i would never be without him.
Only you know how you feel. And only you can weigh up the long term effects on your life. I dont mean for my comment to seem 'guilting'. Its your choice completely, i just want you to have thought of all angles and they are the thoughts that would pop into my head.
Good luck OP x