If you've had a termination do you regret it?

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I never thought I'd be in this situation as I've always been pro choice for everyone but insisted that it wouldn't be an option for me. However my last pregnancy nearly killed me, to put it lightly. I had a horrible complication. I haven't fully recovered yet and any future pregnancies would be incredibly high risk.

I have three lovely children and don't want any more, I have no desire to ever go through that again and the thought makes me feel borderline suicidal because there is no way I could cope mentally or physically with another pregnancy. And my children need me to be fit and well.

I had a condom failure. I took the MAP about twenty hours later but I'm worried it's failed and contemplating what to do. My only logical option is an abortion but I'm worried the "guilt" (stupid because there's nothing to feel guilty about) will eat away at me.

Not for a second. But I was a teenager in a bad situation. It was one of the only sensible decisions I made before the age of 21.

I found it to be mostly painless and easy. It was surgical.

Thanks. Was it okay to recover from?

I was fine, I think it took about a week to stop bleeding completely. It was like a long period.

I had GA so was just put to sleep, woke up with normal stomach cramps, but it was nowhere near as bad as I'd expected. Hospital were very kind.

I think the experience probably depends on how many weeks you are and whether it's surgical or medical.

I would rather have surgical. Medical is too close to inducing labour and would trigger my feelings around the traumatic birth I had. Do you get the choice? I don't want to be aware of what is happening.

I'm so upset about this.

I’ve had a medical and surgical. They do a medical one up until 9 weeks and then it has to be surgical. I don’t regret either but wouldn’t ever have another one. Let me know if you have any questions about either procedure x

Ella do you get to choose what type of abortion?

I think if it’s before 9 weeks then they only offer a medical one. Between 9-12 weeks you get a choice. And after 12 weeks it has to be surgical. That’s how it was at the place I got it done anyway

I’ve had one of each (surgical 20+ years ago and medical 10 years ago). I do not feel any guilt whatsoever for doing what was right for me and my physical/mental health. Personally I found the surgical easier than the medical and neither took long to recover from.

I had a late abortion and no I don't regret it.
There is no way I could have given the baby (/child) a suitable lifestyle at the time. It was the best thing and I fully believe that. It was the right decision for me at that time.

Thank you. I know if I am pregnant, that it is the right thing to do. I'm quite irritated because I asked my doctors for a tubal and they won't refer me because I'm under 35 even though another pregnancy may kill me and hormonal contraception isn't suitable for me. I specifically wanted to avoid this scenario

I had a termination when I was 17 and don’t regret it, don’t get me wrong I still have moments where I think about it and cry but it’s not something I would have changed. This was 10 years ago. Fingers crossed it’s just paranoia that is getting the better of you and you aren’t pregnant x

Yes I regretted it and still do 20 years later. I often think what that child would have been like. If I could talk to 18 year old me, I'd advise against it. However, I hope you make the right decision for you and your mental and physical health . Good luck

I regret mine. It's a painful trigger for me 9 years later on struggling to conceive with same partner, married doing IVF. I have these weird 'flashes' when I think of the life I had in me.

I regret mine.
I struggled to conceive years later and I feel that it was my comeuppance after what I did

No. It was the right decision for all, given our particular circumstances.

I'm quite irritated because I asked my doctors for a tubal and they won't refer me because I'm under 35 even though another pregnancy may kill me and hormonal contraception isn't suitable for me

Why can't your husband take responsibility by having a Vasectomy? In your situation that would seem to be the best contraceptive solution. Unless there is a strong reason why he can't I am a bit appalled that he hasn't done everything he can to avoid the situation you are now in.

I regret mine , all the reasons I thought were real, I hated myself for not trying to overcome at the time. I picture a 4th child with us the whole time. But if you could die by having another pregnancy, then it's a no-brainer for you surely? You need to think about the children you already have. Bad luck OP. I hope you make peace with whichever decision you make.

No I don't regret it one bit I'm one hundred percent certain it was the correct choice.

I have never regretted mine. It was surgical - I don't remember it being difficult to recover from. All the best OP - hopefully it will turn out to be a false alarm.

Ive had two abortions. No regrets.

Please talk through your concerns with a counselor. 💐

I've had two surgical terminations and no I don't regret the choices I made. Both times it was "wrong time, wrong place" . The clinic staff were lovely and the procedure was over in a short time. I was back at work the next day and the aftermath was just like a normal period.