I don't know if i should abort or keep. Im confused.

[sha1414]

i just had a break up with my boyfriend who ill treats me and suspects me for things which i never did. i was sincere through out the relationship. but he always had his suspects over me having another man in my life. And when i finally had the strength to walk away from him and move on.. i found out today im pregnant.. i got my period last on March 12th. I tested positive today.. and im feeling very helpless right now.. i dont know if i should contact my ex again to let him know about my pregnancy.. and none of my family members would be supportive over me having this baby or being in a relationship back with him.. ive done abortion previously before too.. 5times abortion.. and im afraid of doing it again now for the 6th time.. will it affect my health? can i take any pills to abort or should i keep this baby? I feel like im all alone in this

If this is your 6th pregnancy and you have aborted 5 times previously what did you do those times ?
And unless you really want this particular baby it might be better to terminate this time as well.
Do you use reliable contraception?

Hi OP, firstly it is vital you get in touch with your GP and discuss this with them, they will be able to direct you correctly and assist you with your needs. Please do not attempt anything to carry out an abortion yourself.

In regards to your relationship, a child is not a reason to stay in an abusive relationship. If you have had the strength to walk away, have the strength to stay away and work on yourself and a better life for you.

If however, you do wish to keep this child, only then would I personally recommend that you tell your ex as he has a right to know that you will be bringing a child that is his into this world.

Please also begin to look into contraception and ways to protect yourself if you are sexually active, this is vital for your health.

I wish you the best and I hope you make the right choice for yourself. Only you can know what is best for you. However, as mentioned above, please do seek professional help first.

Having an abortion is a personal, individual decision that women are able to make for themselves. & bringing a child into the world with all sorts of problems that im already facing with my relationship its only gonna harm the life of the child. Raising a child should be when you're ready mentally and FINANCIALLY to give the best for the child. Different people have different perspectives over this..

@sha1414 no one is disagreeing with you about that. The decision is yours and yours alone. If you choose to have an abortion do go to a clinic and get it done properly though, don’t risk your health trying to do it yourself. If you have an abortion you don’t need to tell the father if you don’t want to, however if you chose to keep the child it would be the right thing to let him know.

@PippilottaLongstocking

Thank you :)

Yes, you can take pills. Isn’t it rather rare (NI excpted) in the U.K. not to be offered the pills as an alternative to a D&C?

It really is your choice and you seem to have good reason. I would personally caution against telling the father.

OP you do realise having an abortion isn't a form of contraception don't you !? You seriously need to discuss this with your GP and if you do decide to abort you need to get on some proper contraception! It cant be healthy to keep putting your body through that!!

Raising a child should be when you're ready mentally and FINANCIALLY to give the best for the child.

Yup- hence there are more long term forms of contraception which you’d do well to get onto after your sixth abortion.

You shouldn't HAVE to make this decision 6 times. You should have reliable contraception that works for you so you don't have to make this decision.

It sounds like the ex is a bad person to be tied to for the rest of your life, so unless you want the pregnancy, get to your doctor and arrange a termination. And I wouldn't be telling him if that's the decision you make.

You should really try using contraception there is absolutely no excuse to have had 5 abortions and be thinking of a 6th - hope the NHS isn't picking up the bill