I'd decided before hand that I wanted to make sure things were treated properly and with dignity. After the burial, I did seem to pick up.
The biggest thing is your body takes a while to get over things, that can hold you back.
Another thing would be the reason for terminating. That i'm sure plays a big part. Assumptions are made, when I had mine, I was shocked that the idea in my head didn't match reality. In the discharge lounge, I spoke to a woman who was open with why she chose to have the procedure. It made me reflect on the way I look at things, as you never know why people make the choices they do.
How much support you have plays a role. Also the attitudes of others around you, whether you feel you can talk about what you've done, whether you'll get judged, so many variables.
Self care, love and self forgiveness are important, I don't think many walk into this particularly 100% happy. Again it's about assumptions others make, which seldom match reality.