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To tell early due to wedding? please help...

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peaky297 · 15/04/2019 16:55

I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and get married at the beginning of May, when I will be 10 weeks. My o/h and I cannot decide what to do for the best in terms of telling people. We have already told immediate family and couple of very close trusted friends, but that is all.
The concern is that up until I found out I was pregnant I was a smoker and I have never been one to shy away from the prosecco at a party! We don’t want people to guess / find out at the wedding and I don’t want to spend my wedding day worrying about covering it up either. If people are going to find out then we of course want it to be on our terms. Further to this, our honeymoon was booked for Mexico and this is public knowledge. We have now cancelled this and booked one in Europe instead due to the Zika virus being pregnant in Mexico, which would be another thing for us to try and hide.
We have a private early reassurance scan booked for this week and I have read that so long as there is a healthy heartbeat at this point then the odds of miscarriage are (whilst not as low as they are at 12 weeks) greatly reduced. So, we are thinking of telling people ahead of the wedding if all is okay with the scan so there will be no worrying about pretending to drink, dodging questions or not being able to pop off for a rest on the day (pregxaustion!). I just wondered what peoples thoughts are on this please? Thanks.

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Bringbackbertha · 15/04/2019 17:33

I was 4 weeks pregnant when we hosted a new years party...

My brother in law knew so he would often "get me a drink" and dished out the champagne giving me a non alcoholic... no one worked it our..

At our wedding I barely drank due to adrenaline and it being a pain to pee in a dress so it's not unusual to not get plastered.

People can change minds on honeymoons as well... that's ok.

I guess if you wanted to announce your dh could drop it into his speech....the 3 of us would like to thank everyone who joined us today..... we will have our hands full from November.... you could put cards on the table asking for marriage or parenting advice....

It depends if you want the day to be focussed on your marriage or people congratulating you on marriage and pregnancy?

Russell19 · 29/04/2019 19:25

I was thinking it would be nice to announce in the speech too. If your early scan all goes well that's what I'd do xx

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