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TFMR 22 weeks

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Treaclepie19 · 10/12/2018 16:09

We found out today after months of worrying and tests that our baby would be very unwell if he were born... if he survived at all.
We have a termination booked for Friday and I'm so scared. I don't even know where to begin.
Just really getting it all out but wondering if anyone has any experience or wisdom?

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littlepooch · 10/12/2018 22:27

I haven't been through this personally but I wanted to say how sorry I am. You must be in bits.

I'm sure more knowledgeable posters will be able to help

Thanks
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Treaclepie19 · 11/12/2018 00:17

Thank you xxx

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Beyondhope · 11/12/2018 21:27

Treacle I am so sorry to read your post. I have been where you are. Last Christmas I gave birth to my tiny sleeping little boy after we had a tfmr for chromosomal and issues with the structure of his heart. Feeling scared is normal. I am here if you want to chat or ask any questions. Lots of love to you. Flowers

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Treaclepie19 · 11/12/2018 21:53

Thank you so much @Beyondhope
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Flowers
That sounds very similar to the problems our little boy has.
I just don't know how to cope with all of this. It's the injection early tomorrow. Which feels so, so wrong.
Me and my husband are both in a mess tonight.

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Beyondhope · 12/12/2018 08:34

I will be thinking of you treacle. It’s going to be a tough time for you and your husband but lean on each other for support. The midwife I had was amazing and really helped me during my hospital stay. I’m here if you want to talk.

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Treaclepie19 · 12/12/2018 11:28

@Beyondhope thank you so much.
This morning was horrific. I just made myself detach completely so i could deal with it later. I can't believe what we've just done. I feel awful... even though I know it's for our littlest boy in the long run.

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Beyondhope · 12/12/2018 11:33

Just take it easy Treacle. It’s such a hard time. And the fact it’s Christmas I think makes a horrible situation worse. When do you go back for delivery?

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Treaclepie19 · 12/12/2018 11:49

We go back Friday at 10.
I'm just trying to sort all the practical stuff for now.

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Beyondhope · 13/12/2018 19:26

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Treacle. Flowers

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Treaclepie19 · 13/12/2018 20:19

Thank you xxx
As it is we've had to come in early because I wasn't well and had a rash. They started the induction at 5.30 so just waiting.

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Elpheba · 13/12/2018 20:23

Can’t imagine how difficult this is- sending strength and so many hugs

ohwownosnow · 14/12/2018 20:51

Thinking of you OP Thanks

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Treaclepie19 · 15/12/2018 08:38

Thank you ladies.
Our beautiful boy was born sleeping at 9.42 yesterday morning. Thank you for all the support xxx

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ohwownosnow · 15/12/2018 08:54

Sending you lots of love to your beautiful boy and you x

littlepooch · 15/12/2018 13:19

Lots of love to you and your family.

Xxx

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Treaclepie19 · 17/12/2018 22:34

Thank you xxx

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RandomWok · 17/12/2018 22:36

A lot of love coming your way. Be kind to yourself x x x x x

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