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Abortion at 43 years old

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Katarina43 · 07/12/2018 11:14

This is very hard for me to write and I am still in shock.
I am 43, have 3 grown up children 21, 18 and 16. On Wednesday I was late for my period and did a positive pregnancy test.
I had a coil removed a couple of years ago after having treatment for pre-cancerous cells and have used the natural method ever since.
I don't live with my partner and we have been on and off for quite a while now. We had sex shortly after my last period which I presumed was a safe time and way before ovulation. Clearly not.
I am in utter shock. I have a friend the same age as me who is desperate for a child and has struggled to conceive for years, going through multiple rounds of IVF, completely taking care of her body and nurturing herself yet she cant get pregnant. I am angry with myself and angry with my body. I couldn't think of anything worse to have a child at my age and it is not an option or a desire. I have a hundred percent made up my mind that I cannot continue and booked an appointment immediately at BPAS to take the pill a few days before Christmas. I am sorry if I sound cruel but I absolutely do not want and can not go through a pregnancy at my age. I thought the chances of conceiving naturally at my age 43 were really rare.
I had coils for 14 years following the birth of my daughter and did everything possible to avoid this.
Has anyone else ever been in this situation?
I feel terrible, but my decision is firmly made. I would be grateful for any advice. I'm angry with myself....

AnyaMumsnet · 07/12/2018 11:31

Hi there OP,

We're going to move this to Pregnancy Choices now - we think you'll get better support there.

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