Can I afford this child??? Please help!

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I posted another thread in relationships, mainly about whether or not to tell the dad.

I'm three weeks pregnant, after sleeping with someone I've known for years. The first time we also together, and I'm pregnant. I was told 5 years ago it's very likely I'm now infertile due to other health issues. No excuse, but it was one of the reasons for my idiotic lack of contraception.

I've told the father, and he's been lovely to me. But he won't give his opinion, one way or another. I get the impression he'd like to have this child, but would only be a father when it suited him.

I have one DC already. I work full time, in in a quite demanding job. I earn a decent wage, though I don't really have alot of disposable income.

I really think I want this baby, despite being booked in for a termination. But looking at childcare it would cost around 700 a month! I don't have that spare, unless I defaulted on credit payments. My parents are too old to help out with childcare now.

Is there ANY way I can do this? Or am I clutching at straws here??

Nobody knows or can know what your gut feeling is , which is ultimately what you need to listen to and follow .

See if you have a local CAP (Christians against poverty), they are good at helping with things like consolidating debt or negotiating down payments. I would try to see if you can reduce your monthly repayments before terminated a wanted pregnancy.

There may also be ways of reducing your childcare bill, either through tax breaks (thresholds for income are higher the more kids you have) or through it costing less (childminder ms are usually cheaper for example).

Child maintenance from the father? Would you be entitled to any benefits, tax credits etc? Have a look at entitledto to check.